Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Renee
Beginner October 2020

Living Together Before Marriage

Renee, on December 18, 2018 at 9:16 PM

Posted in Married Life 42

Hello all! Nothing of concern, just curious to see the general consensus of couples who have lived together/bought a house together before getting married. FH and I have been "living together" for almost 3 years with his father and this coming year we're buying a house together. Put the actual...
Hello all!

Nothing of concern, just curious to see the general consensus of couples who have lived together/bought a house together before getting married.

FH and I have been "living together" for almost 3 years with his father and this coming year we're buying a house together. Put the actual wedding planning on hold for a while.

Wanted to know if others experienced similar situations. Smiley smile

42 Comments

  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Lived together over a year before getting engaged. Engaged for 19 months (didn’t do anything for a few months). 1st year of living together is the toughest! Glad we already went through that. 😁 1st year marriage was much better. 💕
    • Reply
  • Liz
    Savvy July 2019
    Liz ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Within a year, we met, he followed me to a brand new city for work, bought a house and got engaged. 😳
    • Reply
  • Alyssa
    Super July 2019
    Alyssa ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We've been living together for 2 years and we just bought a home together in October. We've been fixing it up while we still have the apartment lease. We are officially moving into our new home right after new years and I'm so excited!
    • Reply
  • Kirsten
    Dedicated June 2019
    Kirsten ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I wish we were living together! That was the plan anyway when he moved out of state for the last 2 years. So we won't be living together until after the wedding..when we move for his clinical rotations.
    • Reply
  • Swtnss238
    VIP May 2019
    Swtnss238 ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We have been living together 3.5 years. We wouldnt have had it any other way.
    • Reply
  • Tonia
    Expert October 2019
    Tonia ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    We will have been living together for 2.5 years. My dad is pastor so my parents were not happy but it was a personal decision and I wouldn't do it any different.

    • Reply
  • B
    Super March 2019
    Bailey ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    He purchased his house last year with my help knowing it’d be our house later on. I’ve been staying about half the week at his house because he works third shift and I don’t want to be by myself all the time. That said, I will probably move in full time after the wedding.
    • Reply
  • Kimberly
    Expert October 2019
    Kimberly ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    My FH and I have been living together for about 4 1/2 years now. I think it's a good idea to live together first. Living together is hard. It's very different when you HAVE to see this person everyday. Good and bad days. You can't say "hey I'm having a bad day, could you not be here?" You have to learn how to co exist. It's not easy and I think it's a good idea to do that first. Bc if you can't live together, you can't be married.
    • Reply
  • Danielle
    Expert March 2019
    Danielle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We knew we were going to get married from very early on, but decided we should sort out our living arrangements first. He was renting a 2 bedroom apartment, with his 2 cats. I owned a small one bedroom apartment that would not have worked for us plus cats. We put my place on the market, and bought a house a few months later. Got engaged a few months after that, after the sale of my place was finalized.
    • Reply
  • Mrs. J Robinson
    Super March 2019
    Mrs. J Robinson ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We’ve lived together since August 2017...seems like soooo much longer though
    • Reply
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    My fiance and I have lived together for over three years, we bought a house in July. We are getting married this upcoming July!

    • Reply
  • HayMrsO
    Master October 2018
    HayMrsO ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    We have been together 6 years, lived together 4 1/2. He owns a house (which we live in) and I own a house (which we are renovating ourselves). We have been looking for a larger home on some acreage for at least 3 years now, but nothing has come up that is exactly right. It will be our forever home, so we want to take our time.

    • Reply
  • Meghan
    Super September 2019
    Meghan ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    We've been together almost 6 years, and have been living together in an apartment for 2 years now. We'd been living together about 8 months before FH proposed.

    Hopefully after wedding we can start saving for a house. Smiley smile

    • Reply
  • F
    Devoted October 2019
    Future Mrs Wilson ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Yes. We've ben engaged since January 2017. We bought our house in April 2017. We are getting married October 2019. Weve lived together for 8 yrs.
    • Reply
  • Mrs. Cohen
    Super October 2018
    Mrs. Cohen ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    We lived together for a little over 3 years before we were married. Best decision ever. I had lived with past boyfriends before and I'm so glad I lived with them before committing, because I found out super quickly who they really were and I could not stand them lol. I knew my husband was the guy I'd marry when we actually enjoyed living together and got along so well Smiley heart

    • Reply
  • P
    Devoted October 2018
    persimonefink ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    We lived together a year before we got engaged and almost two years by the time we got married. Everyone keeps asking how married life is and now that the wedding stress is over-- its the same as when we were just engaged.

    • Reply
  • Miranda
    Expert February 2019
    Miranda ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    My FH and I have lived together for about two years, and we are getting married in February. We don't own a home yet though!

    • Reply
  • Emily
    Devoted August 2018
    Emily ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    We lived with my parents after he graduated college for 3 months and closed on our house on July 6th 2018. We got married on August 18th 2018!

    • Reply
  • Rosalyn
    Savvy March 2020
    Rosalyn ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    My FH and I have been together 5.5 years, living together for 2 years, buying first home Summer 2019, getting married Spring 2020

    • Reply
  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We lived together for about 9 months in the past. Currently, we don’t live together, but plan to after we wed.
    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×
WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Explore how we embrace diversity

Groups

WeddingWire article topics