Living After Marriage - Do We have To Live In a House?

You absolutely do not HAVE to buy a house. I know a lot of people who are married and still rent either an apartment or house. I don't think it has any reflection on the marriage. We are buying just because its more convenient in our area, but when we move to a bigger city, we probably won't buy.

No you don't. My husband and I don't yet have a home but we are definitely saving up for one

I think everyone has their own situation that makes the most sense. For us, it was buying a house. We own two large vehicles, my fiance works on both trucks often, we want to start a family soon, we have a larger dog and chickens. So apartment/townhome life was never for us. When we rented, we always rented homes. When we bought a house, our mortgage ended up being $200 more a month than what we paid in rent so it wasn't enough to make a huge difference and we knew we wanted a home. We also live in a suburb outside of Denver, so not a big city. We have tons of friends in apartments or condos that don't need garages, don't have dogs that need a large yard, don't have a ton of furniture of clothes, etc. and that works way better for them.

I've never ever heard that buying home is some kind of standard for a marriage. Plenty of people live in rentals, houses and apartments alike, after marriage. We own a home now, before marriage, but I don't think that will make us any more of a legitimate married couple than the next person. I'm not really sure where that came from?

It is absolutely not necessary. Depending on where you live, buying a home may be more expensive than renting. Plus, if you know you don't want to stay in an area for at least 5 years, it's usually recommended to not buy a home. Heck, I know some married people who live with family (usually it's to save up to buy a house). Do whatever works best for you two.

We won't be buying a house, we will be staying in our apartment. It is possible that FH will be relocated after our wedding due to the nature of his work so we didn't want to invest in something and have to sell quickly. We are considering buying a townhouse that way we could rent it out if we get relocated.

We will be living in an apartment for about 1.5 years after getting married so we can save to buy a house. We also have no idea what state we may live in after getting married, so we thought it would be better to not make such a huge purchase until we've decided where our "home" will be. So it just depends on your situation. If you aren't ready for a house yet, don't feel the need to buy one until you guys are ready.

Totally 100% not necessary to buy a house right after the wedding, or ever if that's not what's right for you. Live in whatever makes the most sense for your situation. If anyone is pressuring you to buy a house right after your wedding they are rather out of touch with societal norms

You absolutely do not have to buy a home right away. My sister and her hubs have been married going on 2 years and the apartment/city life has always been for them. To me, my FH and I's goal was ALWAYS to buy our first home, fix it up and sale after a few years and buy our forever home.

We have only lived in 1 apartment, and rented 2 different houses. Our rent was maybe 100-150 less than what we pay for our mortgage. So to us, putting money into something that's not ours wasn't working for us.

But, EVERYONE has their own preference and there is NOTHING wrong with you living in a apartment/condo/town home. Home is where you two are. That's it.

I bought a townhouse in October by myself because the rent for my 1 bedroom apartment was higher than my 2 bedroom mortgage. On the flip side my townhouse needs work done in all areas so did I save money? Well, at least I get to design it how I want! Anywhere you live you can make it your home together. People get houses for various reasons, but being married is not one of them. Don’t rush into buying a house as it is a big financial commitment.

We currently live in an apartment and our lease is up shortly after our wedding. We would love to buy a house soon, but we also wouldn't mind renewing our lease if that doesn't happen in time. We really don't want to rush buying a house. Just kind of taking it as it goes. Do whatever is best for you and your FH!

It's not completely necessary! I've owned a condo for the past 2 1/2 years, and FH will just be moving into my condo after the wedding (he rents an apartment right now). We'll be living in my condo for 1-3 years then plan on getting a house! Whatever is feasible for you and your FH!

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We’re staying where we are in apartment because we love where we live. Sure we’s love to buy a house but to that would require us to leave the city and we are in no way ready to given up our lifestyle.

Not necessary! You don't need to ever own a home if you don't want to!
I only own because it was left to me by grandmother otherwise we'd probably rent forever because it's not very affordable here.

Do what you can afford for now. It’s not necessary to have a house but I know the pressure many put on you to have a house after you marry. Fiancé and I plan to get an apartment together after we marry because we both are still going to be in college. When the time is right, you’ll know what you should do. Good luck!

Don't buy a house until you can afford a house you are prepared to live in for the next billion years. That's the advice my parents gave me a long time ago Totally true. Husband and I live in an apartment. There is nothing wrong with that. We don't know where we'd want to buy a home, how much we want to spend, where we will be working when the time comes, etc. There are a lot of factors to buying a home, so until you are confident you're ready, don't buy.

We just got our first apartment; my sister and BIL have lived in an apartment for the past 2 years. They are just now starting to look at a home after two and a half years of marriage.

You buy a house when you want to make a commitment to a particular job and zip code for a long time not just automatically after marriage. Just because you want to live with a person for the rest of your life doesn't mean you want to stay in the same area for the duration of a 8-30yr mortgage. That's two entirely different things.

We will live in a duplex and were looking at going back to an apartment to save money. It's not the house that matters its the love

Girl, where I live, even tiny apartments like the one we live in cost $400k. Seriously, our condo is 500 sq. ft., but real estate where we live is NUTS.

A house doesn't have to mean a HOUSE. It can mean the place you live. Apartment, condo, house, yurt, mansion...

Plenty of us live in cities, and a house is simply not remotely affordable. Don't measure yourself by HGTV, you'll drive yourself over the edge.