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Mrs. Spring, on November 13, 2020 at 5:57 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 30
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  • How much socializing is important to you and your (future) spouse? How much time do you two want to spend with each of your friends and family? I've noticed that some of my friends no longer make time to socialize after they get married and have children...

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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
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    We are very social people and spend lots of time with friends and family. Almost every weekend we do something with people. It’s super important to us.
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  • Sarah
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    Adding children into the mix can be difficult because finding a babysitter is hard. Plus, the older the kids get the more involved they get in activities (my daughter is 8 and in a normal year has activities 2-3 nights a week) I try to still make time for my friends, but I’ve also made a lot of new friends through my daughter’s activities (other parents) so sometimes it’s easier to hang out with people who are in the same place as you. We also prioritize spending time as a family unit just the three of us so that’s where a lot of our time goes.
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    We socialize with my family literally everyday because my mom watches our son and my stepson. We don't socialize with his family anymore after they did some shady stuff. As far as friends we will go out every once in awhile but my husband and I were bestfriends before we started dating so it's been us for years lol
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  • Katie
    Super August 2021
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    I ditched most of my friends when I graduated high school. I don't need friends or really want to make time for them anymore. Friends cause drama and stress to life, which I'm not about. The older I get the less stress and drama I want in my life. So I've just been deleting friends from my life left and right when they start drama. I only hang out with my fiance, his family and my family. He has friends and I always encourage him to hang out with them. He hasn't really hung out with them as much as he used to since we got together. But it's not me it's him, because like I said I'm always encouraging him to hang out with them.
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  • Susan
    Devoted October 2021
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    I moved back to my hometown almost 3 years ago, and I have no friends here at all. Where I moved from, I had tons of friends and was out all the time. I really miss that. The people I thought I'd be friends with when I moved back home never really materialized. The one friend I had who really encouraged me to come back moved out of town a year after I got here, and several others do a lot of social things, but I'm never invited. If it weren't for my fiance, my sole entertainment would be my 11 year old and my cats! We are hoping to move out of here after FH finishes school in May, and I am sooooooooooooo ready to go! Ideally I'd like to go to dinner or participate in activities with friends at least once or twice a week.

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  • Sarah
    Super August 2021
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    We are very different when it comes to this. While I think its very important for us to not spend every waking moment together, I am not really a people person so I enjoy my alone time. My fiance loves to socialize and be around lots of other people. As for family, my grandmother lives right across the street and my brother lives with us so we see them everyday. We make it a point to go over his moms house once a week or every other week.
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Very nice. It's important to not let go of things you enjoy doing after marriage conpletely.
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Of course, that's understandable. I just hope if I ever become a wife or mom, I won't feel guilty spending a few hours per year. Yes, you read correctly, per year with my friends.
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Okay that sounds nice. It's great you two were friends first
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  • Sarah
    VIP September 2019
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    I don’t know anyone who feels guilty that they’re spending time with their friends as a mom. Is it actually your experience that your mom friends feel guilty about spending time with friends? Or are they just not making it as much of a priority/making new friends?
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Well, as long as you're happy thats all that matters.
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  • Eri
    Super October 2020
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    I'm very much an introvert, husband is an extrovert. I think he'd like to socialize more than we do, but he's happy with our compromise, and I encourage him to go out with his friends on his own.

    Spending time with my parents and sister is very important to me, but it's hard because my sister is away at grad school. My parents live close by, but with different work schedules and everything, it can be hard to see them even once a month. We try, though!

    My husband is really only close with his dad, and they get together every Sunday to watch football. Not sure how that tradition will go once we have kids, but we'll see.

    With friends, we see them much less frequently overall because we're all trying to coordinate around different things, and many of them have kids. It's hard to find leftover time. I've been trying to get together with one of my friends for over a year lol (not that the pandemic helped); it's tricky.

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  • Katie
    Super August 2021
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    I'm definitely much happier without the added stress of trying to maintain friendships with people. Im an adult who has no time for extra work in my life. I have a family and 2 jobs and it always seems like no matter what friends complain because they feel you should be making time to hang out with them. After my long week all I want to do on the weekends is relax at home with my family, I just don't have the time or energy to deal with friends anymore. And like I said I've been cutting out all the unnecessary stress and all drama from my life. I'm not one who needs friends I never have been I never will be. I couldn't be happier with my decision to cut all my friends out my life.
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Okay. Differences makes us beautiful. Take care.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
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    I’m a lot more social than he is. My fiancé is a firefighter & he works 48 hrs on & 96 hrs off so it’s a constant rotating shift. On his days off is when he gets to decompress & wants to stay home. On his days on is when I make plans with my girlfriends to hang out. We love in northern AZ & my parents stay in their 5th wheel during the summer to get out of the Phoenix heat. Summers, I spend a lot of time with them - he’s usually out on wild land assignments.
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    I feel ya. Once or twice a week is a nice balance
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    One if my best friends from university. She sats she feels guilty habging out with fruebds and leaving kids with their husband.
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Oh boy that does sound tricky.
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Okay thats an interesting perspective. Thanks for sharing.
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Thats common in a relationship. One is social and the other is intoverted.
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