listing passed grandparents on program

You could do an in remembrance section?

To me it sounds creepy.

If we did that, it might as well be the obit section.

Is he paying?

I wouldn't list the dead anywhere. Agree with Elizabeth; sounds like the obits.

Tell her an emphatic NO!

One of my grandfathers died before I was born - the same with my husband. We never considered listing anyone who had passed, nor having a table with their photos. I don't know why this has become popular.

Yeah, I know. I'm not on board with this idea but when I said I wasn't planning on listing deceased grandparents, FFIL told me that I shouldn't forget people just because they're passed. They are contributing to the wedding so I've tried to honor any requests they've had and the program hill isn't one I need to die on. FH is going to talk to them about it, but just in case they freak, I'm trying to get ideas and plan for wording that isn't too creepy.

Does FH want them listed? I lost two grandparents in the last three years. I wanted them listed. At the bottom of the program, I said "In Memory Of ..."

We did not include DH's grandmom, who didn't attend our wedding, on the program because she was not part of the processional... since she didn't attend. Only people in the wedding processional should be listed in the program. Its simply not appropriate to include her.

ETA: if he insists, you can have "Parents of the bride" "Parents of the Groom" and "Grandmother of the groom" listed. Your deceased grandparents should not be listed in the same area. You can have a "in loving memory" section, which is pretty common, where you list their names.

We listed our parents and living grandma with the wedding party but we put this on the back of our programs:

"During the prelude, flowers will be placed on the altar in memory of our grandparents whose wisdom, comfort, and love helped shape our lives. Though we cannot see them, we know they are joyfully watching over us on this special day."

Then we listed names and relationships. Ours was a church service so it's pretty religious wording, but it's just an example. There's lots on pinterest too!