Listing mom's bf on wedding sign

If you're not comfortable with it, tell her.

I personally would probably go with "MOB, escorted by BOYFRIEND," but I think accompanied works as well.

I understand completely not wanting them to be addressed as "parents of the bride," so I'd say "accompanied by" is the best option. Have you talked to your mom about why that makes you uncomfortable?

Oh my. Mom is so incredibly wrong to list him as your parent when you don't want him listed that way.

Too bad they won't get engaged in the next few days. It would be easy to list him as her fiance.

Your wording seems the most appropriate.

Just tell her what you just told us you really like him and are happy they have eachother and you’re happy to have him on there but you’re not comfortable listing him as a parent.

I agree with the "accompanied by" wording being the best.

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Ugh, so we have a really close relationship (mom and I). To the point of borderline mother-daughter boundary crossing into friendship. She had me young, we were raised like sisters, etc. We've been through a lot together and I always try to spare her feelings so it's difficult for me to set boundaries, etc. Not the best thing on my end, because I'm a social worker and I know better than that.

That being said..no, I haven't explicitly had that conversation with her. I thought I was being clear in my mock ups, but she's ignoring that. So now I have to have the conversation with her. I wanted to get some feedback on the wording before I reached out. I didn't just want to say "this makes me uncomfortable" and not have a reasonable, accommodating solution.

I think your wording was perfect and I'm not sure why your mom changed it. Give your mom a call and explain your feelings. I'm sure it would be quite confusing to your guests as well.

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I like "escorted by" too.

My stepdad has been in my life since I was 10 or 11, so I collectively refer to them as my parents, and sometimes I refer to him as my dad since it's just easier. But I would probably feel the same way as you, had he not come into my life until adulthood. Your mom should understand that. Just tell her you love him, and you definitely want to include his name, but saying "parents" just doesn't feel right.

I agree with you. I think that the "accompanied by" wording being the best. I would not feel comfortable as him listed as my "parent" when he has only been in your life for less than 2 years.

I have a similar situation. Both my parents met their SOs when I was an adult, and while I appreciate and respect them, they are NOT my parents and I will not call them that. I’m writing:
”parents of the groom, Name and name”
”mother of the bride, Mom name and husband name”
”father of the bride, Dad name and wife name”

It might be a stretch, but people will know what I mean. It’s including them without making them seem like my mom and dad.

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Ok, this is actually what I'm leaning toward. Instead of "parents of the bride", I'm thinking "mother of the bride" and listing Mom name & boyfriend name.

Are you saying "Jane Doe and John Doe", or "Jane Doe escorted by John Doe"?

View Quoted Comment I don’t want to use escorted by here because it makes him seem like some random guy instead of her husband to me. I’m thinkjng Jane Doe and John Doe, or maybe the more informal “Mother of the bride, Jane Doe, with John Doe”.

To me, it seems like you can just combine your two options to make it work for both of you. Do they have the same last name, by the way?

Anywho, instead of "Parents of the bride Jane and John," and instead of just "Jane Doe, accompanied by John," you could do:

Mother of the Bride: Jane Doe, accompanied by John Smith

Perhaps Mom just wants to be recognized as a parent, and couldn't think of this wording herself!