Limiting guest

I'm doing my invitations online and have added that guest seating is identified via placards and reserved by name according to the guestlist of invitees.

Although it is not often done, a PITA for you, you may send out a limited number of ER of invitations where instead of asking them to write an RSVP, they reply by calling you before a certain date, or you call them in some 10 days you name. In that case, as they tell you something bizarre, you hear it and can politely say, I am sorry, but we only invited you and Suzie and Fred. If Suzie cannot come, you may not replace her. You and Fred will be welcome. ... We did it with a total of 4 invitations, and everyone would have messed up. MIL warned us these people had done it when niw hubby's sibs married in previous years. The summer 3 sibs, and ,3 cousins married, us last, they tried the same garbage. And B and GR had not listened to MIL. They said, well if you, this aunt, that Uncle, had told them and told them the year before, surely they would not do it again. Did it again those 3 weddings, transportation all set, please please 2 weeks before showtime. The last 3 weddings each couple called them at a month out. Stopped it. Like dealing with toddlers. Or turkeys. When they are plum determined to go their own way until you give up. ... Do not give them an RSVP printed card. Enclose a note saying you will call for their reply, and meal choices .

View Quoted Comment We might have to! Thank you!

View Quoted Comment You can have a contest, a betting pool to predict who is going to want to bring the 3 people ( strangers to you) who are visiting them for that weekend. Who simply wants a girlfriend to come because hubby is resistant to missing a game. Who wants the mother in law or sister who lives with them, other side of the family. And who wants a friend along for each of the kids, to keep them busy. And an extra point each if you never invited the kids to begin with. Then there are the people who accept for 2 or 3, but Mark 5-6 meal choices. Put me down for one of each, so I can pick that day. I have a big appetite, and so does my son. We each eat 2 meals . And my wife, well she is on a diet so she will pick the low cal items from each dinner, and give the rest away. Without 2 dinners she won't get enough. !!! People can be bizarre. And usually you can predict, who will mess things up.

View Quoted Comment Wow! That makes me nervous for our played dinner lol. Never even thought about that. But I know for a fact one is going to want to bring her mother, who has said something nasty things about my sister and I. The only reason this person is invited is because she has to be.

View Quoted Comment We both have big families. I learned early that the ones who are trouble are a very small number. But they are consistently troublesome. And what makes up for it, is all the rest are consistently great about things.

Put the exact names on the invite “mr. smith and ms. jones”

Great ideas, picked up some tips for dealing with this when my time to send invites comes.