Limited plus ones

We invited anyone who had a SO by name. We only had four guests that were actually single but they were traveling with friends/family so we did not give them a plus one.

Anyone in a relationship, regardless of length, should be invited though.

Yes it meant we couldn’t invite people we would’ve liked to invite so we could accommodate everyone’s significant others.

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Agreed. I would include all couples, and not give plus ones to single guests. See where your list is then, and then start cutting people. BUT don't cut their SO's, cut couples, families, people, etc.....as long as you include their SO's. As far as invitation wording, you just make the invitation out to who you are inviting...and on the RSVP card, you can put "__/__ seats are reserved in your honor."

Plus ones are for single guests only, people in relationships should be invited together by name. If you can’t invite the entire couple, don’t invite either of them.

Draw the line at married, engaged, living together. See how close that gets you.

We didn't have "plus ones" we just invited everyone's significant others. Single people didn't get plus ones.

We cut kids and implemented the "no ring, no bring rule" for our guests. A few of our cousins are in relationships, but not married, and we didn't invite their SOs.

I was kind of selective about this. If you were in a group of friends that were coming then no, I didn't give you a plus one or invited the bf/gf. If you didn't know anyone or weren't comfortable alone at all, I invited the bf/gf too. I was totally limited on space and unfortunately I just didn't have room for every person in a relationship.

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I do not recommend this at all. I’ve been with my fiancé for 7 years and lived together for 3. If I got invited to a wedding and was told he couldn’t go because we aren’t married yet, I would not be going to said wedding.

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This 100%.

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The "no ring, no bring" rule also applies to engaged couples as well. But I guess it's a know your crowd thing too. We only had 5 unmarried cousins to worry about, and they were all understanding of our request.

Only the members of a couple know whether or not they are a couple. It isn't based on length or relationship, engagement, marriage, living together, or any other external standard: It's based on how they see themselves. Ask, if you aren't sure. Both members of a couple are invited by name. You honor their relationship while you're asking them to honor yours.

A plus-one is the guest of a guest and entirely optional.

As PPs said, plus ones are for single guests and up to your discretion. Keep in mind anyone in a relationship must be invited with their SO

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Thanks that's a good idea

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Thanks that is what I am going through thinking about the comfort of the guest but also some of these SO's I have never met, Its one thing if I have met them, or they are a member of the wedding parties S.O.

but if I am limited enough to not be able to invite everyone I would like to be there I am going to be certain the people I want to be there are at the very least invited.