Limited Kids Invited to Wedding, but...

Theres not much you can do but contact them and say we only reserved __ amount of seats for you. The other can not be accommodated

Tough call l, but it us your day and they should respect you for that. We are inviting all kids to our wedding sp we have no family drama. There is about 28 kids invited, 12 under the age of 6, and the rest 7 to 14. My catering company does not charge for kids under 6 and 12 to 7 is half price. So we got lucky there. I hope everything works out for you guys.

It’s not like you guys invited everyone else’s kids and just didn’t include theirs. Have FH reach out and tell them that the invite was for only the parents, not the kids. You don’t need to justify yourselves by telling them that you invited only children you are very close to. No means no. Don’t feel bad about it. As for the 6 month old, I would let that pass too as the baby will probably still be nursing at that time and the parents may not want to leave him with anyone else at that age.
Were only inviting FHs niece and nephews, and other than his sister they are the only “kids” invited to our adults only wedding (adding kids would’ve put us at another 30+ guests 😑). The only other exception was a cousin and her daughter (2 yrs old) who are coming all the way from Germany and we in no way expected her to leave her kid behind lol. People need to start paying attention to the envelopes addressed to “Mr. & Mrs. Smith”, with “2 seats reserved in your honor”. Stop trying to add people to your invite!! Gahhhh.

He added FOUR kids? Oh hell no!! Phone call goes out and STAY FIRM. Good luck.

We are having our wedding on a PRIVATE ranch. It's my fiance's father and qife's property. This was supposed to be a no kids wedding. I thought it would be tacky to put no kids on invitations but I did include it on website. Now a friend who I haven't really been close to in 10+ years sent her RSVP back with her two boys written in AND her divorced husband (none of which were addressed to on invite, only her). My biggest concern is that this won't be the only one... This ranch is only going to accommodate around 100 people and my set up for 100 people is all that will fit in the space. I actually feel it's not fair to the owners of the ranch to try and accommodate any more than we've already invited, not to mention there is no room! How do I go about this?

There’s not much advice to give here. When you decided to have an adults only wedding, you both knew that this was the risk you were taking. FH needs to have the conversation otherwise this will cause trouble with other guests.

It’s pretty rude to add four people who weren’t invited, kids or not. FH needs to call and tell that you have limited space and you only reserved spots for two people from their family to come and that’s why the invitation was only addressed to the adults. He can say he hopes that they can still come but understands if they can’t. He doesn’t even have to bring up that only a few kids are invited.

You said no kids but you are allowing certain kids. If I were a guest I may feel some sorta way when I showed up and there were kids there. One cousin declined because you had a "no kids policy" but there will in fact be kids there. That's really unfortunate. If people write in additional guests you need to call them and tell them that there isn't enough space for the additional people but, don't tell them its because you have a "no kids policy" when ultimately they will pay for a sitter and arrive at your wedding to find KIDS there.

It's terribly rude to ever say "No kids" or "Adults only". Simply invite the people who you want invited.

It's also terribly rude to add people to an RSVP who weren't included on an invitation. Unfortunately, however, a lot of couples are totally clueless about how to address invitations, and some recipients don't even bother to notice who an invite is addressed to. When someone adds guests that are not invited, it's best to give them the benefit of the doubt (i.e. assume they're just clueless) and contact them to clarify. A simple "Hey, got your RSVP, but there seems to be some confusion. Just you and X were invited, not the whole family. We hope you can still make it, but if not I totally understand! Just let me know".

I'd also follow-up with the person who added the 6-month old, in case it was an accident on their part and they thought the kid was invited...they may be humiliated if they show up with their kid and find out they weren't actually supposed to bring it! Even a "Hey, I know baby is still super young, but the original invite was just for your and your husband. There are a lot of kids not invited to the wedding; we're happy to make an exception because baby is so much younger than the other kids and may still be breastfeeding, but we just wanted to give you a heads up".

My wedding is entirely no kids and my uncle thought his kids were invited. You just have to have the awkward conversation where you politely correct them and let them know it's adults only - or in your case say you had a limited budget and unfortunately couldn't invite everyone and you hope they understand.
Don't let those people get away with writing in ore guests. Especially a baby. Who even wants to bring a baby to a wedding??

You don't need to justify it by saying whose children were invited and why. All you need to do is say "We reserved X seats for you and unfortunately, we cannot accommodate your children at this time."

I will never understand people who do this. So incredibly rude to add people to your invite.

You need to bite the bullet and tell them, and soon, because the longer you wait the more uncomfortable it will be and especially if they need to make travel arrangements. It's rude to all the other guests who declined and most importantly to the ones who made the effort to find babysitters and be there.

You don't need to justify which kids you want there. It's what YOU choose to do. We are having kids in the wedding, including my son. Those kids are invited and there maybe 1 or 2 others by special case that will be invited. But just because 1 kid is in attendance doesn't mean everyone else's kids have to be there. Its a person by person basis. kid or adult. If anyone was to say anything to me about it id let them know thats what we chose to do. I had this problem for a simple baby shower i had and i was asked why the kids couldn't come, guess what they got over it lol