FH's mother passed away ten years ago from cancer. We will be honoring her memory with a short poem in the program and a lit pillar candle (with a poem on it) near us at the ceremony.
If you were us, how would you go about lighting the candle? Should FH do it, should both FH and I do it, should FFIL do it, or should FH's grandmother do it?
Also, at what point in the ceremony would you light it? Would you have the preacher make mention of it, or do it silently?
FH doesn't really give an opinion about how/when he would like to have the candle lit. Initially I thought about having FFIL light it before the ceremony with no announcement, but now I'm thinking it would be nice to draw more attention to the lighting. Our primary goal is to recognize his mother appropriately and respectfully without creating a somber environment for his family.
I feel like there are 1000 different ways to go about lighting it; I'm just curious what you all think would be the best way!
