Life's order

We met, messed around, moved in together (within the first three month of just knowing each other...I was a dumb 20 year old) while still just messing around, decided to date, he moved away for grad school, I followed and moved back in as a girlfriend, then we got married.

Life is weird and that’s awesome.

We became boyfriend/girlfriend when he had to rush me to Urgent Care after I badly burned myself making dessert for a potluck we were going to. The doctor asked me, "Is this your husband?" and I responded that he was my boyfriend. After the doctor stepped out of the room, we had a very abbreviated version of The BF/GF talk.

He wasn't quite ready to say "I love you" when I did, and I respected it even though it scared the crap out of me. He did say it a few months later. I tend to follow my gut/heart, where he's a bit more cautious.

We probably would have moved in together sooner, but I had to have reconstructive surgery on my leg and couldn't bear weight for four months. It was brutal and he was my champion! He took me on wheelchair dates, pushed me all around Disney World when we went for my cousin's wedding, and helped me hobble in and out of apartments/townhomes we were touring.

He moved to our new place first, I followed him when I could manage the stairs in our new townhouse.

We got a dog and bought a house together a year and a half later (both of our names are on everything), then started planning our wedding. And got another dog...

He proposed about a year into wedding planning (and with three months to go before the wedding) and it wasn't remotely a surprise but it was perfect nevertheless. We actually joked that he might not even propose until the day after the wedding at the rate we were going. We had a LOT of trouble with the ring situation (a few very, very incompetent jewelers).

We started the planning early because 15 months out from our wedding, only 2/8 venues we toured had our date left, so getting the wheels rolling was more important than waiting on a ring. it did mean we had to hustle on invites after the engagement, though, and definitely missed the date on save the dates. Oops.

Aha I've had plenty of friends do things out of order. It's fine your life progresses and flows differently from everyone else's and that's totally ok.

This is my second marriage so definitely things did not go as expected. Came into the relationship with two kids and a BSC ex husband. Met him, we knew right away this was it, then we went on a month long adventure to California to retrieve my children from my ex husband when ex's visitation went awry. It's been a wild ride.

We were only dating for a year before we decided to buy a house together. We got engaged two years after moving in and our families said "finally". 🤣

We are so backward. I lived in NY and he lived in RI. I met him when he was working on a project in NY. I was smitten by his smile at first sight. Before we were even dating we started talking about wanting to buy a house and have kids. I already had two kids from a previous relationship and we agreed that two more would be perfect. Within a month of dating we found out we were pregnant. We had a long distance relationship throughout the pregnancy but he was often in NY for work. The whole family went on a “baby-moon” vacation during the middle of the pregnancy and multiple long weekend trips to RI. FH took time off work to stay in NY when the baby was born. When the baby was 5 months old I packed up and moved the kids and I to Rhode Island and moved in with FH. We started saving to buy a house and after 2 months of living together as a family full time he proposed. The wedding is at the end of this month. Next comes the house and hopefully one more baby but, I feel extremely lucky. I just knew he was the man for me right away. I had no fears having a child with him even though the relationship was new and we lived hours away from each other. I just knew it was right and would workout how it was supposed to.

We met, started messing around, after a few weeks official girlfriend status, shortly after found out we were pregnant(miracle baby, his first my second), moved into together a few months later(into my mom's). Fast forward, we got our own place back in March, our daughter will be one on the 5th and even though he hasn't officially proposed yet, we set a wedding date for 2 years from yesterday. We are completely out of order.