Letters before the ceremony?

We're not doing personal vows, just the standard vows the rabbi has us read. It's up to you whether you want to write a letter to share some personal/private thoughts with your future spouse before the ceremony. It depends on what you put in the letter. The letter could be stuff you don't want to repeat in front of all your guests.

We weren't allowed to do our own vows with a Catholic wedding so we wrote letters and read each others before the ceremony privately with our videgrapher to capture each others raw emotions reading them

My husband and I wrote letters to each other. For us it was a nice centering moment and something tangible to keep for future reflections when times get rough.

I've been writing in a journal (almost everyday) things I love about him and our life and other stuff like that. I'm going to try and coordinate that he gets it and has a chance to read some of them right before our first look.

I think I want us to write our own vows too, but we haven't discussed it. And I'm not sure if he'll think of writing me a card or getting me a present unless I ask him to or bring it up first.

If you are writing personal vows, that may be over-kill on the letters.

My better half is extremely private about some aspects of his life, and there are things I'll want to say to him that he wouldn't want said in front of anyone else. We haven't decided if we're writing our own vows yet, but even if we do I'll be slipping him a note that morning.

We plan to say our own vows for the ceremony. Prior to we ceremony, will be exchanging gifts via our BM/MOH and we will send cards to one another.

We are doing the traditional vows but will be writing letters and reading them before separately since we aren't doing a first look. I think some things are more personal and you don't want to put in vows so maybe a letter would be a good idea

We are doing both. There are things I want to say to him privately rather than in front of every person. I romanticise the idea of something being just between us. Our vows are our promises to each other.

These are really good ideas. Thanks you guys!

We are doing both! Our letters with gift will be more focused on being excited to see each other that day while our written vows will be more our promises to each other from that day till forever!