Let’s Talk About Living With Your Fiancé/Spouse!

Biggest challenge is that I've got pet peeves aha. USE A COASTER PLEASE aha. So I think for him it's been a learning curve

Oh I am SO looking forward to moving in together 💕 FH and I have 3 months left until the wedding! Been engaged since August. Dated for 11 months before we got engaged and 90% of that was long distance because I was finishing college!
We both still live at home with our families. And live about 30 minutes apart. Our work schedules are very different. I work retail part time with a constantly changing schedule and he is a police officer who changes shifts (days/nights) every 2 weeks so some weeks it's very hard to see one another.
Even after we are married our work schedules will still not match up well, but we are both so glad that we will have the same home together and will be able to see one another more often.

One of my favorite things about living with my husband is being able to sleep in the same bed; ironically, it’s also one of the most challenging things: getting used to sharing a bed

My fiance and I are going to live with each other after marriage but we only live 10 minutes away from each other currently so I'm at his place all the time. The biggest challenges I've faced are the fact that he uses wash cloths interchangeably as hand towels (????), and even though he is quite a clean person, he tends to leave food out. However we are similar levels of messiness, just in different ways, so I anticipate a relatively smooth transition to living with him.

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I will be living with fh after we get married and i told him thats one thing i'm gonna have to learn, to deal with him after a fight lol. I like going to my house and clearing my mind. Now, i'll probably go to my room to do that lol

We moved in together 3 1/2 years ago, and it wasn't all that hard. Probably harder for me - I'd been living alone for about 2 years at that point. But, even though we lived close geographically, given our schedules and transportation (subway), we didn't always see each other a whole lot. I hated that.

I know I eat better now, he's a great cook, and I don't spend as much on take out!

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I'm the opposite of a homebody, but I do love snuggling up on the couch! Looking forward to doing more of that when we're married. I have like the opposite problem of you... FH is really clean, and I'm the more messy one. haha It'll be an adjustment for sure!

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I can't wait for that!

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Thank you! There will be several things I'll have to get used to doing (like putting up clothes after I fold them instead of just leaving them in the basket -- FH is great at that). Can't wait to see him everyday, though!

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This is so cute! I love that he tucks you in. FH is so great at making me laugh too so I'm excited to have more of that when we live together!

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I'm so guilty of folding my clean clothes then stacking them on the floor because I can't find room in my drawers. This is something FH has told me I need to stop doing too lol. He's really clean as his mom has cleaned houses his whole life and keeps their house really clean!

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How men can't seem to find anything drives me bananas too! I don't understand how they don't see something right in front of them! We're, also, going to have fairly different sleep schedules. FH goes to sleep between 7pm-8:30pm on weekdays because he has to be at work at 4am. He's already planning on showering in our guest bathroom in the mornings to try to avoid waking me up.

We moved in together just shy of 4 years of dating. We lived about 45-55 minutes apart, so the biggest change was actually seeing each other a lot more (we would do a date night mid week and then alternate weekends at each other's house). I love living together but what I really am enjoying a lot is being able to cook meals together during the week. I found it so hard to cook a variety of meals as a single person living alone, so I ended up eating lot of leftovers. So now we meal plan, grocery shop, and cook together. It is great!

View Quoted Comment Haha yep! Or do a Target Therapy run. Haha

I had moved in a year after we have been together, it was definitely an adjustment at first and there were issues and just getting used to living with someone else. Now I cant imagine living with out him! It was a big step for me since I had never lived with someone else before, I am so grateful for his patience everyday

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I wish he would even move them to our room! I generally fold on the living room floor, so his clothes sit out for all to see.

We moved in together after dating for 1 year. I have children from my previous marriage and needed to see how FH interacted with our household on a daily/consistent basis. Also having been divorced before I had different things I was looking for in a future spouse. I needed to see his habits when it came to keeping up the house, contributing to the household expenses, how we interacted living together, etc. We will be living together just under 4 years when we get married and I can say that the last 3 years have been a learning curve for us both however, we are both glad we were able to get to know each other and work through the issues prior to adding marriage to the mix. I know the person I'm marrying for his good qualities and not so good habits and they are all things I can live with and work with him on for the long term.