Less Yes Rsvps Than Anticipated

About 30% of my FH's side of the family responded no. He was so sure that almost all of them would come that I could tell he was a little down about it. I told him to think about all the VIP guests that were so excited to come. All of his guests who RSVP'd right away, favorite Aunts, cousins, family friends, he will get to spend more time visiting with them. All the people who will be there really love you.

Yes I had this feeling of being bummed out when I would get “no” replies. I was so disappointed for my hubby that out of the 42 that were invited from his side 28 replied yes and only 9 showed up 🤦🏻‍♀️. There were only a few maybes on my side but everyone else on my side came. I was looking forward to everyone meeting each other cuz we were long distance and didn’t have any opportunities for the family to meet. I was sure that was gonna be the day. My Mom met his dad for the first time at the wedding.

I appreciate it. I know it will be a fun day with my friends and family regardless of folks not being there, but you're right that it does sting.

We got more than we anticipated. We invited 225 and assumed we would have 150-175 guests. A few "no" RSVPs hurt or were surprises, we ended up with 125 guests total. We ended up having the most beautiful wedding & the entire wedding weekend, we felt so close to everyone that was there and it really was awesome. I wouldn't change a thing if we did it all over.

I had about 20% decline rate which is very average but I was surprisingly shocked aha just because I thought the people that could go didn't go and the ones that likely wouldn't, did.

I'm trying to keep that in mind and the fact that October is a busy month for many people and not take it personally.

Honestly I'm terrified of this not looking forward to this part. I'm just trying to remind myself so many people dont RSVP nowadays or it's just a busy time of year.

Just try not to focus on it. Be sad about it for a bit and move on. I had about 15% decline, and then I had a handful of people back out the last week.. You will have a lot of fun with the people that will be there.

I’m kinda worried about this. We’re only inviting 55-60 as it is 😬

It was rough - in the end, the only blood family I had at the wedding was my dad. My stepmother, my dad's frat brother and his wife were also there, but my mother's side, as a bloc, declined to come.

I had a bit of a cry, blocked my mother across all platforms, and focused on who WAS there. In the end, we had a beautiful day, and I'll deal with the emotions about my family as they come.

The thing I'm angriest about, in the end? My family refused to say if they were coming or not until very late in the process, so we couldn't ask other people we had cut to accommodate them.

Emily you aren't being silly. It's human nature to be disappointed but dont stay bummed down continue to prepare yourself to celebrate a very special day!

The average no count is actually 30% so you are right there where you should be honestly. We have two guest lists and when we start getting "No's" from Group A we will move on to Group B and frankly I'm hoping we can get more off our Group B than A as B consists mainly of work friends.

I feel the same way. It makes me sad, but it shouldn’t! Weddings are very stressful and expensive for guests to travel to. Don’t take it personally! Think of all the money you’re saving!

Your feelings are completely valid. You want people to be a part of your special day. I was thinking about this recently because I sent my invites out about two weeks ago, and there are a few people that rsvp’d as no that I was disappointed about, but I’ve also been worrying about the final payment for the wedding, and fewer guests means a smaller check I have to write.

In a happy turn of events, we're actually on track to receive the anticipated number of people we thought would show up based on our total number of attendees -- we just had many delayed responses.