Lesbian Bachelorette Question from MOH

Well, people do joint bachelor/bachelorette parties ( I honestly don't understand the point of that but to each their own), why don't you have a joint one if they want to do it together?

I think it's more fun to have one big one. You can split costs more this way too. If she wants to, it's a party for her, so her FW should get to come!

The bachelorette is supposed to be a party for the bride. If the bride wants her bride there, that is what she should get.

So I think combining would be a great idea generally speaking; however her FW's is an overnight trip and none of (my friends) friends will go. For reference, at her bday party last year she had two friends go (myself included) and the rest were FW's friends. She's just not a super social person. So while awesome sounding, it's not realistic to celebrate her.

Wait, I don't get it. Why isn't it realistic to celebrate her? Her bachelorette party would still be her 2 friends, her, and her FW.

@lyla if it's combined, it won't really celebrate her. If it's seperate it will.

If she wants FW there than that is it, end of story. There really isn't anything else to discuss. It doesn't obviously bother her so why does it bother you? I would just throw a joint party.

Dude, she clearly wants her FW there a whole lot more than she wants to be the soul focus of the celebration. And really, is there any better way to celebrate her than by letting her have the bachelorette she actually wants? You're having this party to make her happy, right? So make her happy.

I don't see the problem with her asking her spouse to join.

Sounds fun to me. Just invite her FW.

Wait, are we talking about combining both bachelorette parties into one? I thought that your friend just wanted her future wife there, not all of her FW's friends as well. My apologies if I am misreading. I think that if she wants her FW there, she has probably given this some thought and decided that this is what she prefers. you said that she is not super social and only has a few friends who are invited. Being the same kind of person myself, it could be that she is nervous to be the complete center of attention and prefers to keep her partner around as a buffer. I would also bet that she considers her FW one of her best friends and it might even feel odd to her to have a fun night out without her. I know I consider my partner my best friend too. Whatever floats her boat.