My hubby to be is the best man in his friends destination wedding. I am very close with both the bride and the groom in November. They are going to be in our wedding party at the end of the month. Except, she chose not to include me as a bridesmaid and I’m hurt but understand that she doesn’t HAVE to have me as a bridesmaid. I totally understand the difficulty of choosing the wedding party.
However, this happened to me at another one of my bridesmaids weddings (hubs to be was a groomsman), but that friend went out of her way to include me in the bachelorette and her shower. She and I talked about the difficulty of choosing bridesmaids but we could still make it an inclusive experience.
The bride in this wedding on the other hand excluded me from everything and to top it all off they are doing a kings table. All my other friends are in the party as well and those that aren’t are coupled up so I’ll likely be the fifth wheel. Mind you I understand that this is not my wedding, but it still feels kind of icky. At the end of the day I know it’s just one day, but the obvious exclusivity is getting to me.
Any advice on how to handle this?
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