Least tacky way to share registry site?

Most people here will say honeymoon funds are tacky, no matter how you tell your guests.

You don’t. If you’re having a shower, the host will put it on the invite. Otherwise you don’t. People will google.

I personally disagree. I think that honeymoon funds are totally a thing and more people should do them! This day in age a lot of couples live together already when they get married (like me). And we are planning to do it. I think make a fb page and also send out the same email to everyone. Give them the lowdown in a polite manor just saying how instead of having a normal registry you are having the option to "gift" towards the honeymoon fund. I hope it goes well!

Make a wedding website and put the info on there. Put wedding website on STD or invite

If you have a website, add it there. Let your folks know and word will get out.

Oh no no no. You don't register for a vacation...Noooooo. It is most definitely Wednesday.

All of those vacation registries are a scam to take part of your wedding money.

Don't register anywhere and your guests will give you cash/checks. This means no pesky service charge for the mere appearance they are giving you a Disney brunch or flights. This means all of your wedding money can actually go to the vacation you plan with your FS.

I like the wedding website idea and putting that on the invite. I was just trying to avoid coming off rude or something but we don't really need more stuff for the house you know? Whereas money for the honeymoon could be a nice help. We can pay for it ourselves, just extra... and now I feel self conscious

@Krysta-the last wedding I went to the couple had a Honeyfund. People talked. People also gave physical gifts. I come from an area where no one ever gives physical gifts at a wedding, people give cash and cheques. People were gossiping between the ceremony and reception about the Honeyfund and how gauche it was and what other tackiness the night would bring.

If you do it, I would just put it on your website. No offense @Krysta, but I think it's rude to send an email. You are essentially pressuring people to give you a gift and that should not be an obligation. Putting it on your site and then the site on the invitation works or if people ask what to get you, tell them the information. I think it's super tacky to do some sort of announcement that says, give us money for our honeymoon unprompted.

Oh dear.

Put your registries on your wedding website. They'll be easy to find, and you may casually tell people to visit your site. As well as that, a host for your bridal shower, if someone throws you one, may also inform guests of that shower where you're registered at. Simple.

And for the love of all things, do not register for a honeymoon fund. You're asking people for money to fund a vacation, essentially.

@O&S-we got a gift card for Sears and they’re liquidating, know what we’re buying: sheets and towels because after 7 years together, towels and sheets need replacement.

It's always rude to ask for money. Always. Dressing up the request for money in the form of a registry does not make it less rude. Registries are like Christmas lists - if someone asks you (or a family member/close friend) what you would like, they have already decided to give you a gift and want to know what you would like to receive; it is appropriate to refer them to your registry.

Registries also provide guidance so guests don't get you duplicate gifts or so they know what your tastes/needs are if they choose to give you a physical gift. No one needs to be told how to give money. You wouldn't dictate that guests give you cash rather than checks, so how is it different to dictate that guests use a credit card to give you money through a website (or however those sites work; never used one since they have always left a bad taste in my mouth even before I joined WW). Just don't register, and use whatever money you receive for whatever purpose you want (including your honeymoon). There is literally no reason to have a dedicated honeyfund or honeymoon website for guests to use to give you money.

The whole reasoning is just that we don't need more towels or a blender we already live together. The reason I am asking here about this is because I have never been to a wedding or been married I don't know how this goes so sorry if people are offended. We are paying for the honeymoon ourselves as well as most of the wedding and weren't sure about checks and everything. I don't expect anything from the guests honestly but the only thing we would want is either money or honeymoon stuff, everything else we're covered

I've always seen registries listed on shower invites. We did online RSVP and put our registries on there. I also got texts asking where we were registered and I know my mom answered it a few times as well.

1. Honeyfund websites take a portion of your contributions. Some sites it's as little as 5% and as much as 20%.

2. Honeyfund websites sell your information and your guests' information to solicitors.

3. Honeyfunds don't actually buy your flights, accommodations, meals, or excursions. They "guess" the price and give you a portion of what your guests give you.

@Colleen-yes, on shower invites, you list registry info. However, OP is most likely not having a shower if she doesn’t want physical gifts.

Most people "pay for the honeymoon and wedding ourselves" so that's no excuse

My now husband and I lived together for a year and half when we got married. We still registered for upgrades and items we needed.

Guess what, we still got money in cash and check form even with that.

Don't specifically ask for money, it's rude.

Just put it on your wedding website like any other registry. I honestly don't see the difference between asking for stuff or asking for an expierience. You do what you think is best for you and your FH.

@Calee-a wedding registry isn’t “asking for stuff”, it’s if you’re having a shower to ensure you don’t get 4 toasters or 3 mixers. You a) don’t usually set up a registry unless you’re having a shower; b) put things on there that are suggestions. No one has to use the registry, they just normally do.