My SO has no interest getting married in the temple. I am not sure I want that myself, how would you go about adding lds elements or signs of respect for it into your wedding? I do not want to shock his side with lots of preaching. I was willing to have alcohol at our wedding which is a big thing for me. I have had a drink maybe 3-4 a year unfinished and am certainly not known to accept one. I know he would be open to a chapel maybe even premarital counseling although it would be a therapist and not a priest. We have a strong relationship going on 4+ years so it would not be counseling to save the relationship. I have a lovely cross I could wear but even that might bring awkward conversations about. I am a meek confrontational person mostly. Is there a good way to ask adults not to show too much skin? I know you can't tell adults how to dress, but how could I get it across that it is going to be a modest affair even if its not (obviously) religious.
If you could not get sealed what would be the next best thing to you?