Late Rsvps

Give it 2 days and then start contacting people.
"Hey, I didnt receive your RSVP card, are you planning to attend?"

We are a week and a half past our RSVP date and still missing people. I sent an email and even followed up by text. If they do not RSVP, then I am counting that as a no. I do not have time to chase people down when I have given them multiple ways and chances.

I would send out a mass email (with everyone bcc'ed) as a gently reminder. However, it is custom to get them up to a week after the date.

Give it another couple days in case anyone sent out rsvps today. After a few days contact those people and say "Hi Aunt Sue! I hope you are well. We havent gotten your RSVP for our wedding yet and we need to know if you are coming or not. We need an answer by ___ (give a date, usually a couple days after you reach out). If we dont hear from you by then we will unfortunately have to mark you as a no and will miss you at the wedding! We look forward to hearing from you!"

Once the date you gave is passed they are marked no and stick to it!!

I agree with the others: give it a couple days for the mail to catch up and start calling your procrastinators. Be polite, but stern, that you need an answer or you'll consider them a no. People think it's fine because you just need a number for caterers. But if you have rentals and a prepaid valet to consider, then the guest count becomes even more important.

I agree to give it 1-2 days. When you contact people say something like “We need to order our reception meals. We’d love for you to attend but understand if you can’t. Can you let me know today if no or yes, and if yes who will attend?”

I would HOPE letting people know you have to commit to paying for their meal will prevent “no shows” but we still got a few. Grrr. 😡

UGH! We have a lot of people like this on our guest list....I am friends with a lot of people and do plan on posting passive aggressive memes on Facebook

RSVP Meme

Isn’t it frustrating! I have posted one meme on FB, with one guest commenting on it but still hasn’t RSVP’d lol Oh the joys!

Thank you all for the feedback! I will settle my nerves and anxiety about it and give everyone a little more time!

View Quoted Comment I like this approach! Thank you!!

View Quoted Comment Yes! Thank you for the idea!!!

I’ve seen lots of great ways to say this on here if you search for it. I posted something asking about rsvp rates for others’ events on Facebook and people started rsvp in a hurry. Mostly the no answers lol. I know we will have tons to track down still as we only have 4 days left and less than half have answered (online rsvp). We were at 25% before my post lol.
however now I have people who weren’t invited commenting a such 🙄. Weddings=drama

I would definitely offend several people that I didn’t invite with a fb post lol. I wish I had known how much drama weddings were before I begged to have one! Lol