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Hi date twin! We are also having ours in a country club. If you would still want them to come, the venue should still be able to accommodate them. But if not, I would just say something like, as much as we would like you to be there, we have already submitted our final count to the venue, which we can no longer change. Something like that/

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your reply. I hate saying no but I just don’t know what to do. I want them to come but there is no room at my mom’s two tables and there are not two seats next to each other available at any other table. Ugh!

Did you reach out to her after your RSVP date was due? What would have happened if she would have RSVPd on time?

I mean, when your rsvp date passed, you should have reached out to everyone yourself for an answer. Now your stuck in a tricky situation, because obviously you did send them an invitation, and you also failed to follow up with them. I feel like this is a mess up on your end. However if you can no longer accommodate them, just politely let them know that the rsvp date has passed and a final count has already been submitted to the venue. If they push the subject, then just let them know that the venue will no longer allow you to change your final numbers and apologize.

View Quoted Comment Yes, she sent the message on 8/20 and the deadline for the replies was 8/12. If she would’ve emailed last week that would’ve been fine. But we’ve already completed the seating chart and I have no where to put them without completely re-doing it. And the custom wedding favors are already in production.

View Quoted Comment Since they are friends of my mother’s, I informed her that I did not receive a reply from them. She told me that I should plan on them not coming. Therefore I don’t think that it was a “screw up” on my part. The friends that I invited that did not reply I called and got an answer. Since they are friends of my mother’s, I feel that it’s her responsibility, not mine to reach out to them.

Final count is in. You reached out and did your part. They didn't respond til now. I would just tell them unfortunately final numbers went in to the venue and we can't accommodate anymore. And that's on top of the fact that your seating chart is also complete. I understand your mom might be upset buuuut I check my email everyday, why don't her friends? Just saying!

Have you reached out to your venue?

Meh, from my perspective, you guys messed up here by not following up when you didn’t hear from her. I’d take the fault, and find a way to fit them in, as long as the caterers can accommodate it. If you had reached out, they would have said they missplaced the invite so didn’t have the rsvp date but did intend to come . Also consider what “upsetting your mother” means in the grand scheme of things (ie: is she paying ?)

id find a way to accommodate my guests regardless. I invited them because I wanted them there, so I’ll go out of my way to make that possible. We had a guest, a couple that RSVPed for only 1, as the other would be out of town for work. A week before the wedding, they reached out that his work schedule changed and he was now able to come and they were wondering if it would still be possible? I said yes. I had submitted my numbers to my caterers, but could still add on. It was inconvenient. I had to shift my seating chart around a bit after very careful consideration had gone into it. But, these were my guests who I wanted to celebrate with me, so as long as I could add them, I was determined to do so!

It's not that hard to redo a seating chart. I would accomodate them, it's your mom's closest friends and an honest mistake - not like they just didn't tel you and now are demanding to be included.

I would accommodate them. They were invited, and 8 days later is really not that late. You should have followed up appropriately, and your mother probably could have too, but the point is you invited them. If there are two single seats not next to each other at a table, which from your wording sounds like this is the case, you can easily shift those people to put two together. You don’t have to redo the whole thing, just shift a few people. You said yourself you want them there, so make it work!