Last Name Change... Hyphenate or Not?

I would say yes to hyphenating unless you're going to have one as your middle names and one as your last names (a friend of mine and her wife-to-be are going that route!), but I definitely think they should be in the same order. If they were a different order, I don't think it would really be having the same last name lol. But that's just my opinion!

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I was thinking the same thing! I'd definitely want them to be in the same order or it might get too confusing. We both love our middle names so I think we will just end up having obnoxiously long names... Which we are okay with! Lol.. Thank you for your input! I appreciate it!

I considered hyphenation, but I've researched a lot about it and found that it can cause lots of headaches! Just something to consider. I found this really helpful article on Bustle

https://www.bustle.com/articles/118071-7-things-that-happen-when-you-hyphenate-your-last-name

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Random but that article annoyed me lol. The "reasons" were comical and had a one-sided tone.

I can only speak from my own experience here, we will be hyphenating. We went back and forth on which name first and not only did I prefer her name first, but it ended up being alphabetical and since she's older I used that as another excuse to have my name last. It really can be that easy if you can't decide. We definitely wanted our names to be in the same order. That was very important to us. There are no real rules though as long as you both agree.

I think if you both hyphenate, you should both have the same order but then that means one of you will technically give up your name... not sure how you would decide that.

is no hyphen a real thing? I always thought legally it was hyphenated but you can choose actually use it (or not) at your discretion.

View Quoted Comment I read online that if you hyphenate it’s one last name and you must use it in full each time, if you don’t it’s two and one can be dropped at any time and you don’t HAVE to use both last names. But I think we may do no hyphen and same order! Might make legs docs a little easier.

My cousin and his husband hyphenated. They each have the same order and chose it based on what sounded best. You can do whatever order you'd like, just see what sounds best! My FH and I are each keeping our last names but are planning to hyphenate our future children's names, and we're basing the order around how it sounds (one of our last names starts with an S and the other ends with an S, so we're planning to put the name that starts with an S first so that it doesn't get garbled together).