Last minute decline because of a vacation?

Yea it's annoying I had a lot of RSVP changes come close to the wedding too. I guess it's better to know beforehand than to have no shows and not know of it.n

That was bad etiquette but you never know their circumstances. FH and I are pretty stingy with our weekends because we are long distance right now and have a lot going on.

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Yeah, like you said - we just never know the circumstances. I know they're not long distance - that's another situation. She sent my FH a text that said, "OMG GOOD NEWS! FH surprised me with a vacation! BAD NEWS - it's your wedding weekend, so we can't go!" Then add the additional "sorry" paragraph. This is considering that they were the first groups to RSVP months back and now weeks before, we got a "can't come! sorry bye! Going on vacation!"

Sorry they declined after saying yes. At least it wasn't a no show I suppose.

That is weird, because he probably knew the date of the wedding so could have planned it another weekend? But it is good she told you ASAP instead of just not showing up.

This sounds like a dumb error where your friend didn't realize the date of their surprise vacation fell on the date of your wedding. At least they gave you a pretty good reason as to why they won't be there. Hopefully they'll send you a nice gift or check to pay before they go on vacation.

I agree RSVPs are the WORST!

Maybe it was a miscommunication/she was tracking the wedding but he wasn't when he planned. I am sure it wasn't a "this event is better so I much rather not go to this other now."

I agree it stinks, but I can tell you right now that if my FH surprised me with a trip, he’d have no idea if it was a weekend where we have another wedding because he doesn’t keep up with our “couple calendar.”

Thats super rude... maybe they figured its not such a big deal if they arent that close? Regardless of the reason its bad etiquette and very rude. sorry you have to deal with this. better that they told you instead of telling you last minute but still... hopefully 3 weeks before the wedding is more than enough time to figure out your seating charts and whatnot without them

That stinks. I’m sorry OP.

Super annoying! My supposed BFF's husband surprised her with a cruise so she didnt attend my wedding. Let me tell you, I was so pissed I didn't talk to her for a year.

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I agree with Brittany - I bet hubby scheduled it, and totally forgot about the wedding. If it was really important to you, maybe Skype them in for a couple of minutes?

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Since she is friends with your FH. It's possible that her FH didn't know. My FH tries to make plans all the time over events and parties. They just don't remember stuff.

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That's true. My FH does the same with events here and there. I just feel bad bc the declined happened right after she came to my bridal shower. She was somewhat out of place and I did my best to include her or introduce her to people and for the most part, it seemed like she was okay. I even introduced her to FH's mom and sister (she used to work with FH during their internship in college). Unfortunately, FH's family is not the friendliest or hospitable, so she may have felt slighted or not welcomed then (which I understand bc FH & I are friendly people, like her & she probably felt hurt by their cold nature). She did leave early. I just find it all suspicious. I do feel for her because we've all been there where we were just not feeling it at a party and it's just uncomfortable.

Anyhoo, it's probably for the best.

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Funny you say that - I never understood why brides would be so offended but now, I totally get it. I simply just get it

Thumbs down to husbands and FHs who just "forget"

View Quoted Comment Right!! I wouldnt have cared if it wasn't my BFF. My other BFF didn't come but she was super sick so course I couldn't be mad at that.