I had my bridesmaids picked out before we were even engaged. One of the girls were my oldest and closest friend who's always been there for me. I planned on asking her to be my bridesmaid but on the day we were supposed to meet, she flaked on me last minute (I had to reach out to her multiple times to see what's going on), and when she finally responded, she said she was in an argument with her mother. I didn't get to meet up with her for weeks after that, & I ended up asking another close friend of mine since I thought that similar things may happen even after she's on my bridal party.
I met with her today (first time in months) and it reminded me of how important she was to me. Now I'm considering asking her again, even though it would mean I need an extra of everything and order the dress separately (We get married in June). My bridesmaids are thinking that it could be left as is, unless I REALLY want her to be a part of the bridal party for my happiness. Am I being unrealistic?