Last min Bm?

I feel like if all the other girls have been BMs for the last 6 months, she’s going to figure that out and feel like an afterthought. Keep in mind too that your wedding being only 5 months away limits her ability to possibly save enough money for the dress before it needs to be ordered.

I agree with Sarah. It is a nice thing to consider doing, but she'll probably feel like your "backup" and might be more insulted than anthing.

Agree with PPs. It's going to look like she didn't make the cut first round and that's pretty hurtful

Yeah that’s what I wouldn’t want her to feel like. Speaking with my Matron of honor, she told me how she was asked to be in someone’s wedding late and the bride texted her directly and told her how she was sorry it was later than she had hoped but that their relationship had grew since the time she was with her FH and couldn’t imagine not having her there that day. She also told me how she asked a BM late herself and said she regretted asking late, but couldn’t see the day without her there. I feel the same about my addition, it’s just how to go about it. She’s coming on the bachelorette trip but that’s not until November. I’m supposed to be visiting her soon so I could ask in person. I have everything still to put together a proposal box that everyone else got and could add more as well. I still would want to make sure she felt special

I wouldn't add a BM to replace a BM. I think that's pretty rude. I also wouldn't add someone because they are reliable. If she wasn't a first pick as a close friend or family, I'd skip adding her now.