Lack of Support

No one will ever be as excited for or as invested in your wedding as you are. Some family members will provide overbearing input as to the wedding, others will leave it up to the marrying couple.

Your feelings are completely valid – it’s a matter of fact that I think we all struggle with as we expect everyone, especially our family, to be just as excited as we are!

My co-MOHs started out super excited and talking about helping plan and diy, the shower they were going to throw and bachelorette party ideas. However, that quickly faded and since those first couple months the only time we ever discuss anything wedding related is when I ask for their opinions. I know both are really busy with their own lives, but I was really hurt for a while. I know it sucks when people don’t seem to be excited for you. I’ve found that people are generally more responsive when you ask them for input on something specific versus just generally expecting them to help plan.

Yeah I def felt my bridal party wasn’t as excited as I’d hoped but like pp said you’ll learn that people won’t be as excited as you’d want

It can be frustrating, but you and your fiance will always be the people that are most interested in your wedding plans. I agree with the previous comments - a really good way to get responses is to ask for opinions, and also to talk to people about the parts of your wedding that they will be directly involved in (dresses for bridesmaids, food menu, etc). Also make a point to ask your friends and family about the things going on in their lives - just as you hope they would provide a little more support for your wedding plans, they are likely hoping people will provide support for their life events too. They may be more responsive to your wedding plans if they see that you're also interested in their events too.

Nobody is to help you plan (except your partner), but it would be nice if they seemed more supportive. Why not ask? They might not realize you’d like them to ask questions or show interest. 😊

When I first started planning it felt like no one was excited and that I was just being a nuisance throughout the whole process. As we have gotten closer to our wedding the excitement among those around has grown. We're 11 days away now and it's really been these last two months that my family and FH's family have been thrilled about the wedding

View Quoted Comment Nice to hear. Unfortunately, the lack of support contributed towards our decision to elope without anyone present.

View Quoted Comment Thanks. I didn't expect them to be over the moon. I was expecting a simple "let me know if you need help with any organizing or research, etc" offer.

View Quoted Comment Okay, thanks for your input.

View Quoted Comment I understand. I didn't expect them to be hyped, lol. I just was expecting one simple sentence of offering any assistance just once...

View Quoted Comment Okay, thanks for sharing your perspective.

View Quoted Comment I have asked my mom and she gave excuses 😞
Thanks for your input.

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I think they might not also know that. my bridesmaids thought they were going to be told what to do aha instead of asking if i needed help in anything

I feel this! Reactions are "oh yeah, you're still doing that" and "oh cool." No interest from anyone except my SO. Kind of disheartening, especially when families have always been involved with other's weddings. 🤷‍♀️ at least its cutting back on me having to please everyone I guess!