KWR: When to tell new job about wedding/honeymoon

DH had an interview that ended up lasting 7 hours and they took him to lunch, he mentioned at that point that he was engaged but that was it. When he got the job offer &accepted it, they then had a meeting with the boss & HR to go over signing contracts & such. That's when he brought up the honeymoon trip. They asked if he was taking one, he said he wanted to but understood if he couldn't. They gave him the day of rehearsal, wedding, and 5 days of the next week off for the wedding.

I told him not to bring it up until he got the offer, but he didn't listen to me and mentioned he was engaged. But I wouldn't bring up a honeymoon until after you've gotten the offer and accepted it.

ETA: When he got the offer, it was a few days before we were about to leave for a week long vacation that wasn't wedding related. They asked when he could start & he said we were going to be out of town for a week and then he could start, and they gave him an extra week after getting back from the trip. I feel like most places are pretty understanding/accommodating.

It would be best to bring it up to them now so they have time to prepare.

But one the other hand if you don't tell them and don't get the job you have nothing to worry about.

We are going through this now with my fiance. He has an interview next week but we are getting married October 1st. So we don't know what they'll say. We might tell them when they offer him.

I would wait until they made an official offer. When I was hired for my position, HR didn't mention vacation time in detail until the actual job offer and even then it was negotiable to a point!

Personally, I'm in this predicament.. I'm going to mention it during the interview and ask if it will be a problem. I'd hate to get the job offer and be told there's no way time off is approved.

As a supervisor who has done hiring, I would suggest telling them at the time of the job offer. Most places will be negotiable and understanding about a huge life event. But telling them during an interview may influence their decision to hire someone else, especially if they are interviewing a few people for the position. Best of luck! I hope everything turns out in your favor!

Thanks ladies!

I would wait until you get the offer, then you can negotiate. If you bring it up now they may use that as a reason to not move further in the interview process. Good luck!

I never tell them until there's an offer.

I wouldn't mention it during the interview. Usually they ask after offering the job if there's any time off in the near future

Definitely wait until you get the offer. It wasn't my honeymoon, but I already had an anniversary trip booked when I took a new job. After I got the offer details, I let them know I needed that time off, it wasn't a big issue. It's not politically correct, but bringing up your wedding in interview- some people might see "marriage->kids->being pregnant early on" so know your audience.

I got a promotion back in February and told them upfront I'm getting married in October

Wait until you get the job offer. Pretty sure that they would give you the days off as it was a prior commitment not just something you came up with on the same day

I told new job what month my wedding was at the end of my interview because they asked. I only told them the exact dates after I accepted job offer and signed my paperwork. Most places will accommodate your previously made plans if it is far enough in advance of you being hired, but everywhere is different. Job interview I went on 2 months after getting engaged factored my engagement into their hiring decisions. When in doubt, feel it out.

Don't tell until there is an offer. If they like you and want you they will make it work. But mentioning it in the interview makes it sound like ur only thinking about vacation. Focus on killing it in the interview.

You don't have to tell anyone anything until you're hired. Then you approach HR and let them know.

I also have done a lot of hiring and seen other managers hiring decision processes. Please wait until you have an offer! By that time we have decided to hire you and it will influence our decision much much less. It's not intentionally done to be mean but if you say in a interview you need a week off right away it's off putting.

I just went through this. Was interviewing literally from Dec through July (long process!) and got engaged in February. Our wedding is in November, and I got the offer in July. I didn't say anything about getting married until I had the offer, then I spoke to the hiring manager and said I was excited to join the team and would need these days off and was willing to work to figure out how to cover the time, but that those dates I would not be working. They were fine with it and are letting me "borrow" the vacation time from 2017 days. I start Monday!

ETA if you can, book the honeymoon before you get an offer so that you already have something paid for and on the calendar and need those days off.

I would wait until you get the offer. Telling them before might make them be less interested. Once you've got the offer, negotiate the time off

Employers understand that new employees may have already made vacation (or life changing) plans.

The best advice that I would give is to wait until you have an offer. Then let them know about your wedding and honeymoon. You can offer to work late, and/or weekends to make up the time, if they would like.

I did that, once, and my employer appreciated me telling them that I had a vacation planned (non-refundable tickets) a month after they hired me. I offered to work extra hours ahead of time and was told that was not necessary. The owners appreciated my offer, though.

If you tell them before you have the offer, they may go with another candidate.

I am in HR and I think letting us know when you get the offer is always nice! I also think it's not a bad thing if you mention it right away because if they really like you they will still hire you and most places understand how important a wedding is!