KWR: FH just got fired (vent) - might have to cancel wedding.

OK Stop and breathe. This is all new. Don't jump to any conclusions while you are still really upset.

I hope it works out for you. Don't count on dad to pay, its your wedding after all.

I agree- stop and breathe. Get through work, and then at home tonight reevaluate your finances without FH's income. Then decide if you need to cancel.

I'm just sick. I feel like i've waited so long and worked so hard (FH too) to get to this point and now it's all coming undone. We have a fur baby to support and a mortgage to keep up with. IDK if FH wil be able to get unemployment since he's only been at this job for 30 days. If he had't taken this job we wouldn't have been able to book our wedding! He had a few days off between old job and new one and I was also between jobs so we took an overnight trip to the beach and met with a venue and booked it! I was so excited and happy and now all i feel is angry and sad and scared.

Definitely breath! I would not make any decisions about the wedding for a few days. Take some time to look at your finances and see what you can afford. If you have already booked vendors, you may be losing money in the long run by canceling!

Don't cancel just yet. If anything postpone the wedding. Right after I got engaged I lost overtime that I was heavily reliant on and my SO was out on rolling layoffs. We then got into a car accident so on top of piling debt and lack of work we had that on our plates. We ended up sitting down and talking this all out and it resulted in postponing for 7 months. Did it suck having to do that? Yes it did. When the day we should've gotten married came along I was devastated knowing I wasn't marrying him that day. Those additional 7 months though flew by and we're now married. Looking back had I continued the planning for that date it would've been a disaster. Had we cancelled we'd still be together but I'd be heartbroken. Since we postponed we look back at how it was a blessing in disguise and it made the whole process a lot more bearable seeing how we had the extra time to enjoy our engagement, plan our wedding and really see how much we truly love each other.

Take a deep breath. Give your FH tonight to be pissed and sad. Then have him start applying like a madman. Also if he left on good terms, he may be able to ask for his old job back. Even if it wasn't the best environment its a job until he can find something that is actually better.

I agree with the other PP's. Take a moment to breathe. I'm sure you'll come up with a good solution once you've had time to calm down and breathe.

What does your contract say about changes/cancellations? Maybe you can change the date and not lose any of your money. Also, did you get Wedding Insurance. I'm not sure if this is something that's covered, but it may be an option.

Hang in there! And don't forget to breathe.

You can definitely apply for unemployment. Whether or not he gets it will be based on the circumstances of his leaving, not how long he was there.

I would hold off on cancelling until you see if he can get another job before too much time off. If he can, hopefully you'll be right back on schedule! I would hold off on making any more payments though, if possible.

Take today to grieve and vent and take a deep breath. Have some chocolate and tackle it fresh tomorrow morning.

Thanks everyone, i'm feeling more calm i just needed to rant and get all that outa my system. FH will find something but don;t think going back to old job is an option. They'd been making cuts when he left and the company isn't in good shape might not be around much longer. I always assume and prepare for the worst and like I said having one of those days and this set me off I couldn't keep it in anymore.

Haven't sent STDs, was hoping to order invites this weekend, look for wedding bands and get FH's wedding shirt, probably gonna postpone all that for a bit.

As for Dad paying, maybe this is a bit entitled but he's given so much more to everyone else. FH and I have lent him money over the years that was never paid back and my mom wouldn't want me paying for this. So much has happened over the past 4 years that has caused us to keep putting off our wedding and its starting to feel like the powers that be just don't want me to have this moment.

Hang in there. Stop and breathe for sure.

So sorry to hear this. Hopefully your emergency fund can help you cover things until FH has a new position and you won't have to cancel things. FI and I are paranoid about the same thing happening to us If your financial situation doesn't permit it, perhaps cut the guest list so that it's just the immediate family? People will understand if there's a job loss that the couple won't want to go around having expensive parties.

Breathe. Take a day and just relax. What I would do, is take a look at the finances and see what that shakes out to be. Then, I would make some vendor calls and explain the situation. Maybe they'll give you a "you must cancel by date" if you want your deposits back. They might tell you you're SOL in which case you might as well have the wedding regardless. Since you haven't sent STDs or invitations, you can always drastically cut the guest list in light of the situation. You could even change to a cake and punch reception or a BBQ caterer. There are TONS of options girl! Your FH will find something new and this will all be a distant memory.

P.S. I wouldn't count on any money from your Dad unless it's IN HAND. Our parents wrote us a check for their contribution and we just put it in the wedding account.

Same thing happened to me. Layoffs at my job and he got fired from his. This all happened early May. But we both got new jobs we started this week. And we're making more money too! Just have faith! I was freaking out too as we had just put down our deposit on our venue. But things are looking up. Your FH will be able to find something new soon

See if you can move the date. Hopefully your venue will understand and move to a later open date. Sorry this has happened.

Hang in there. We've gone through 3 lay offs in a 5 year time period, me once and him twice. It really does suck! But now there's options like Uber and Lyft to help make a little extra income until something comes along. We've both worked for temp agencies that ended up connecting us to better jobs. He should 100% apply for unemployment. I agree with others, maybe cut the guest list, and if you're open to maybe a cake and punch style reception? If not that's what you want, just sit down and see what can you live without that you haven't purchased yet? Vistaprint has cheaper invites but still good quality! It will all work out.

Worse comes to worst, he can try and get some type of part time job in the mean time. Server positions, retail? Basically anything that will keep SOME type of income flowing.

Good luck.