KWR: Experiences in changing jobs within 6 months of the wedding?

I didn't change jobs close to my wedding but my current employer lied A TON to get me on board. I have been with the company just over two years and I hate it. I work every Sunday and they did not disclose that up front. They lied about the pay. The only reason I am still here is because I was waiting until after the wedding so I could keep my PTO for the honeymoon (which didn't work out but is a whole other story).

I have 2 (!) second interviews tomorrow. One with a company that I used to work for and one with a company I am less familiar with but I would really like to work for. The interview for the second one is supposed to be from 1-3 so it will be the longest interview I have ever had. Don't take peoples' crap for any longer than you have to. The day I got back from my honeymoon is the day I started applying for jobs elsewhere.

I don't necessarily think that there is anything wrong with the act of changing jobs at this point in the wedding planning, with that being said, I wouldn't do it. Think about it. All the wedding related things you do during the day (WW, vendor phone calls/emails, inspiration searching, ect) all will have to go away when you start a new job. Whether they say so or not, you WILL be in a probationary period while you learn the company and its quirks. And doing all those things don't look very well, especially when first start a job.

And then there are the vacation days...were you counting on using any for your wedding week or honeymoon? You may NOT get hired in with any vacation time OR as much as you think. I'd be wary and wait until after the wedding

I don't have an answer for you right now but I might soon. I am looking to find new work before the wedding and hopefully getting time off is ok. It just came down to the fact I don't know if I can last that much longer in this job.

I know my MOH accomplished it before her wedding though. They are taking a belated honeymoon in April but she still needed about 6-8 days off work as they were getting married in her husband's home country and it required more time. Her job was understanding but I can see how some might not be.

I started a new job in April and got married in October--this was because I moved states to end our LDR and plan our wedding. It worked out fine, but that might have something to do with how awesome my boss is. She knew I was engaged from the very beginning, although we hadn't set out date for sure at that point, and that I would want a week off afterward for the honeymoon. She ended up insisting I take off 3 days before the wedding, too, came to the wedding, and gave us a very nice present. You never know how well things might work out!

I did 9 months before. No issues! But I think that's because my current job and company rock. I had 2 weeks of PTO already by my wedding. December is slow here. I'm salary, so needing to do a few wedding things here and there weren't a big deal, as long as my work was done. But..I also didn't have a ton to do that couldn't be completed after work hours.

My work even threw me a shower......

Thanks ladies, I guess there's a lot of polarizing advice. Erin, how did your new employer take that? Has it affected you at all??

And Sarahdell, you rock, thanks for the words, you're absolutely right and sounds like a similar situation!

I am in the middle of a job search (not by choice), but I am going to keep quiet about it until I need to say something. Hopefully my wedding is far enough away to accumulate some time off. We'll see. If you don't have to change jobs now, I wouldn't. It's stressful.

I just changed jobs last month, but I didn't tell them I was engaged and needed time off until after I had the job offer (but before I accepted). My boss has no problem giving me the time off. I think most places would be accommodating as long as you are upfront with them.

However it has made wedding planning more stressful since I am only comfortable sending wedding related emails during my lunch break now. So there is that to consider.

I changed jobs in October and my wedding is this Saturday (yay!). I think I got lucky because this new place is super laid back and flexible. I told them up front that I was getting married and would need time off in January, and they are even letting me use un-earned PTO for my wedding and honeymoon (obviously if I quit I have to pay it back, but this job is super rad and I won't quit!). I would just be upfront and honest. If they don't want to give you the time off, then it probably isn't the right job. Six months notice (or even less in my case) is plenty of time to find coverage for a week.

I am changing jobs in a week and I too have thought about how I will lose the comfort of doing planning and wedding related research (or WW forums lol) during the work day. I didn't say anything during the interview because I was still 10 months out at that point. Plus a friend was on the interview panel and she knows I'm getting married so if she thought it was a big deal, I'm sure she would've told me. Also, I am transferring to a new department/position/supervisor but within the same overall company so all my leave will follow me.

Employers should understand. Its a huge life event, not just a vacation. I changed jobs in August, wedding is in Feb. I told my new employer before I accepted the position. Turns out Feb is our busiest month of the year! But he understood.

Oh yea and I went from WW/wedding planning all day to only outside of work hours. You'll get used to it. I much prefer being busy and stimulated in my career! Sometimes I send a few emails in my lunch break if its needed though.

I didn't change jobs before my wedding, but I did change jobs when I had vacations already planned. I simply asked for more vacation time as part as my compensation package and it worked. I always subscribe to the philosophy is that job >> wedding and I would never ever turn down an opportunity to get a better job. Usually they understand if you show them a plan of how you will help them get through the time that you're away.

I got a new job mid-November because we moved 4 hours away. I didn't tell my boss until January that I was getting married and would need time off. I didn't want that to affect me getting the position.