We are getting married Dec 11th 2016. Our guests just received STDs this week. We sent them because the wedding is in holiday season and we had not publicly announced our engagement so I wanted to get the date our there to our guests before sending invites.
I was thinking of sending invites at the end of this month-first week of October, but I am not sure what to set the "RSVP by" date as because I know how wonky the mail gets from Thanksgiving week onward. If I say "kindly RSVP by November 20th" does that give guests enough time? Our guest list is small and I am offering paper & online RSVPs. My caterer does not need a final count til 5 days before our wedding.
