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Kinda wedding related- petty?

Mrs. Coakley, on July 5, 2019 at 5:42 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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Hey all! It’s been a long time since I’ve posted on these boards. I’m throwing a big surprise party for my DH this winter for a milestone birthday. I was wondering if it would be a jerk move to not invite people that no-showed to our wedding? My view is that if you couldn’t be polite enough to attend a wedding you RSVP’d yes to, why would you attend a birthday party? What do you all think? I’m footing the bill for this myself.

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Latest activity by Amanda, on July 8, 2019 at 2:52 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on July 5, 2019 at 5:47 PM
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If your wedding was truly in July of 2017 and the birthday party isn't until this winter, I would say it depends on how the relationship has been for the 2+ years in between. It would be odd to not invite someone to the birthday party because they didn't come to your wedding if you've hung out 15 times since then. If you haven't spoken to them in 2 years since your wedding, I'm not sure why you would consider inviting them in the first place. It sounds like you've been dwelling on your wedding no shows for way too long.
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Vicky · on July 5, 2019 at 11:58 PM
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I completely agree with Caytlyn.
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D · on July 6, 2019 at 12:37 AM
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Also agree with Catlyn.

I know if it was me I would still hold a smudge of a grudge but not enough to exclude them if we still were in each other's lives.
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Mandi · on July 6, 2019 at 1:22 AM
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I think it definitely depends on your relationship between then and now.
I'm usually team petty. But if you're on good terms with someone now, dragging up old drama is a little over the top.
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Brandi · on July 6, 2019 at 1:34 AM
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I totally agree with Caytlyn. It depends on the pres. Relationship. If things are going well then invite them. I think you having the surprise party is a good celebration.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on July 8, 2019 at 2:29 PM
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I think it would more depend on the friendship. Do you guys still talk to the person or see them and maintain a friendship? Then yes, invite them. If not, not necessary to invite.
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Kelly · on July 8, 2019 at 2:42 PM
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If you're that petty and upset why would you still bother being friends with those people at all never mind the birthday party?
Overall I agree it'd depend on the relationship with those people.
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Amanda · on July 8, 2019 at 2:52 PM
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I agree with you. Unless some of these people reached out after and maybe had an explanation that you could relate or justify in your mind. But it’s your money that you’re spending, so I get it
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