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Savvy October 2020

Kids!!!

Holly, on December 31, 2019 at 5:07 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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So here's the deal... I LOVE kids! We're having a brunch wedding on Halloween (10/31/2020). We have a tight budget and our venue charges full price ($50) even for kids over 5 years old. We are inviting and paying for the children of our family members and close friends. A lot of our friends have children. I am NOT opposed to having children at our wedding, but I am opposed to paying full price for all of them. Would it be terribly tacky to add a note in our invitations to our friends with kids telling them that they are welcome to bring their children, but that we can't pay for all of the kids? Would it be ok to be up front with them about the cost and ask if they'd chip in $30 per kid if they want to bring them? My future hubby says bc its Halloween we HAVE to invite kids, but they'll eat up our entire guest list budget! Please help!

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Latest activity by Pirate & 60s Bride, on January 1, 2020 at 12:45 AM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on December 31, 2019 at 6:05 AM
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If you’re going to invite kids, you need to pay for them just like any other guest. Asking the parents to pay is extremely rude and yes, terribly tacky.
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Savvy October 2020
Holly · on December 31, 2019 at 6:09 AM
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Do you think it's ok to have a wedding on Halloween morning & not invite kids? The reception ends at 2 so it would not interfere with trick or treating.
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Master September 2019
Sarah · on December 31, 2019 at 6:11 AM
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I think it’s fine to not invite kids to a wedding on Halloween morning, but it’s absolutely not ok to invite kids and make their parents pay for them. As always with not inviting kids, expect that some parents will have to decline and be accepting of that.
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Savvy October 2020
Holly · on December 31, 2019 at 6:13 AM
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Thank you!
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on December 31, 2019 at 7:15 AM
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I would just do al adults only reception. It would be of putting to make parents pay for their kids. Halloween festivities are at night so you should be good.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on December 31, 2019 at 7:25 AM
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I think that's completely fine. No one is doing Halloween activities at noon.
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Master September 2019
Sherry · on December 31, 2019 at 8:07 AM
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If you are inviting them, you need to pay for them. If you cannot afford it, let the parents know that kids are not allowed at the wedding.
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VIP October 2020
Taylor · on December 31, 2019 at 8:20 AM
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I wouldn't invite the ones you don't want to pay for. We were selective with the children on our list. If I didn't know them WELL, they aren't invited. Family friends kids made the cut but my coworkers children that I have never met did not. I think it will deter a few people from coming but in the grand scheme of things, if they want to be there they will! People have friends, parents, and babysitters that can take their kid trick or treating. If it's a brunch wedding, they might make it in time to do it themselves
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Savvy October 2020
Holly · on December 31, 2019 at 8:22 AM
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I think that's the route we will go. Thank you!
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on January 1, 2020 at 12:45 AM
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Totally fine! 👍
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