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Just Said Yes February 2021

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Lindsey, on February 19, 2020 at 10:35 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 8

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I need help ! My fiancé and I have two kids . A little girl who will be 6 and our baby boy who will be 1 . I figured everyone would understand that of course I want our own kids in the wedding ... but my sister made a comment saying her girls will be upset if they aren’t in it . I love my neices but I don’t want them to take away from my kids being in it . My nieces will be 6 and 9 is there any way I can include them but not as a flower girl ?? Our venue is very small and I don’t really want a bunch of kids standing up front with us either would it be rude to make them sit??

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Latest activity by Alex, on February 20, 2020 at 8:47 AM

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Kimberly · on February 19, 2020 at 10:42 PM
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You don’t need to have your nieces in your wedding. Your sister should be able to explain it to them as their mom. You can always let them be in charge of handing out whatever you will use as your exit (bubbles, sparklers, etc). Let them have a role like that.
Way back in the day, about... ahem 35 years ago when rice was still thrown at weddings, my aunt let me be the one that gave everyone their little sachet of rice. I felt special with my role in the wedding.
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Leslie · on February 19, 2020 at 10:44 PM
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If your putting down an aisle runner, they can roll it out, they can carry something special down the aisle (rings, unity candle, bible) and then sit with their parents. They can straighten out your train, hold the basket of bubbles or whatever your using. I was in my sisters weeding when I was size and I loved it. Make sure they’re part of pre-wedding pictures with you getting ready.
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Caytlyn · on February 19, 2020 at 11:10 PM
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Flower girls and ring bearers don’t typically stand anyway. They also wouldn’t take away from your children. That being said, if you don’t want them in the wedding, don’t have them.
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D · on February 20, 2020 at 12:07 AM
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If you don’t want them in your wedding you shouldn’t feel obligated. If you want them to have a role but not overshadow your children you could incorporate them in something small at the reception. Like being in charge of brining you your bouquet before the toss, if your doing that.
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Cindy · on February 20, 2020 at 3:56 AM
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I'd have them all participate but along the lines of throwing petals or bubbles b4 you walk down the aisle. Then they can sit with their folks and you can have your kids with you if you want.
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Patrice · on February 20, 2020 at 5:49 AM
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I agree with what most others are saying: you shouldn't feel obligated. Your sister should be able to explain that.
Incorporating them in other areas outside of the wedding can be easy...and if your sister is insisting on them being involved in the ceremony, you may need to have a conversation with her as to why it's so important to HER that the kids are in the ceremony.... unfortunately, sometimes, other adults want to use their kids to make it about them... I've seen this scenario before at a friend's wedding and it caused so much drama right before the ceremony that it made all of us as guests feel awkward.
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Danielle · on February 20, 2020 at 7:57 AM
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I think it'll be cute to have your kids as flowers girls then her kids behind you holding your dress or her kids rolling out the aisle runner.
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Alex · on February 20, 2020 at 8:47 AM
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Just give them ANY role. Guest book monitor, gift table host, program passer, etc. You can be creative with these.
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