Kids rsvpsing?

I would put your foot down on this actually. I think allowing some kids and not others is setting yourself up for hurt feelings.


We had a friend do this and we just reached out and said “hey, we’re sorry but this is an adults only event. We hope you can still join us.”

You cannot expect your guests to read your mind and know that your wedding is adults only. They need to be informed of this so that they can make arrangements for their children. No family receives mail that is addressed to everyone in the home and wedding invites aren't any different. If the home receives an invite, it is assumed that the family is invited to said event unless it is otherwise mentioned which it wasn't. For any RSVP's that you get for children, I would call them right away and apologize for the misunderstanding but you are having a kid free wedding but hope they can still attend your big day. Most will be understanding and appreciate the time away.

P.S. I am 100% all for a kid free wedding but we did include an insert with our invitations so that there was no confusion later.

This is exactly why I 100% disagree with those that say it is “rude” to put “adults only” on invites. How else will people know, if you don’t directly tell them?! Personally, I feel it is rude to NOT put it on the invitation, then expect people to “read between the lines” or hopefully pick up on subtle hints (like not specifically putting children’s’ names in the card). Putting it on a wedding website is great, but I feel like that shouldn’t be your first line of defense since a lot of people never look at the website. In your present situation, my best advice would be to determine whether you are having an adult only event, or if you are going to allow all children, then handle it accordingly. Good luck girl!

Our is an adults only wedding also. Some of my fh cousins have 6 kids hell his brother has 7. It's no way I'll be spending all that extra money to party with a bunch of kids. I have it on the website but I'm gonna also make a fb post tagging my fh and bridesmaids saying the wedding/reception is adults only. Word of mouth too.

I feel like people do this a lot! I think it should be common sense that whoever the invite is addressed to means that that’s who is invited? 🙅‍♀️ I’m having no kids at my wedding and if people try this with me I will have no problem letting them know.

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This 100%!! I would never think it was rude if someone but "adults only" on an invitation they sent me, so we decided to put it on ours. I don't think anyone would bring their kids, but you can never be too sure that someone will pick up on what you want them to pick up on. And I'm not in the mood to call a bunch of people and tell them they can't bring their kids.

View Quoted Comment Agree with this. This isn’t something I would let slide or you risk offending your other, more polite, guests.