Backstory: My first marriage ended amicably in 2016. My ex and father of my 2 kids (10 and 7 now) had an "easy" divorce. We made a pact to put the kids first. His new wife and I get along well. No drama but of course it's been hard for our kids. He has since remarried and I'm getting married in May, a destination wedding. While planning the wedding, I asked my daughter if she wanted to go knowing she was struggling with the idea of her parents not being together anymore. She reluctantly said yes but I got the feeling she really doesn't want to. Yesterday she confessed she wants to stay home which means my son won't want to go either. I'm heartbroken about it but let her know it's her choice and I'm not mad or sad about it. I'm not forcing it if it will cause her distress to be there. According to my ex's wife, they both had meltdowns 5 min before she walked down the aisle and it was hard. She cried a lot during her own wedding because the kids were so upset. I dont want to put them in that position again. I was going to ask them both to walk me down the aisle so that's not happening. I know I'll be secretly sad without them there but I'll get through it. Anyone else go through this with young kids? It's so hard because I deserve to be happy too but I also care so deeply for my kids. Please tell me it gets easier.