Kids.. no kids?

I am having a no kids wedding other than the kids that are in the wedding party. I just don't want them there and like you said it's an added expense. Plus if you invite one you have to invite them all. It's on my invitations, on the website and we told everyone by mouth NO KIDS. Plus we toldthe venue hostess if any one has kids they are to be turned away at the door

If you really don't want kids there then don't invite them. I personally would draw the line at age 18 to be fair. If you have a more upscale or unique (like a boat) venue then I could see justification on 21+.
Just keep in mind whatever you choose you gotta stick to, and if it's not kids expect some parents not to be able to come.

I did No one under 18 except direct nieces who were in the wedding. Some people didn’t come because of this and there was a little conflict but i was Glad i stuck to it because the few kids that were there were running all over. It was fine with a few but i couldnt Have imagined more than that plus the cost

If people have to travel there I’d include kids because what are the adults supposed to do with their kids while they’re at your wedding?

I am luckily NOT the “bad guy for having a Child free wedding. Minus the 4 in the Bridal Party. Our venue is a casino and they have asked us to not have kids/teens if we can help it.

We are older and didn’t want to have the whole kids running all over thing. Our children are 21( mine) 22 & 25( him) and so are last the point of that.

That said:
1) Anyone who is breastfeeding should be able to bring an infant( 1 year old or under) as they cannot leave the baby & the baby won’t be eating solid food.
2) Count anyone as a “Kid” who a meal would be served to. This can be ages 2-18. If they eat solid food, albeit a “kids meal”, they count.
3) You can hire a sitter and or room for the kids if you must invite them. And budget allows you to do so.

View Quoted Comment Babysitters. Parents have to know that children are not invited or welcome to all places. It's the parents' responsibility to figure out what to do with them if they want to attend the wedding.

We did nonlids even though we have 13 nieces and nephews between us. Our venue doesnt offer a super great discount on kids sonit would have been way too expensive, and while we love them dearly, we wanted more of a party atmosphere where we could just let loose. The only person under 18 was 1 cousin who is 17 and is a first cousin of mine. Turns out she cant come anyway so we now have an entirely over 21 wedding.

If you dont want kids, I would draw the line at 18 since after 18 they are technically an adult. Unless you do a flower girl and ring bearer. In that case most people understand that they are part of the wedding and will be the only kids there.

View Quoted Comment Fair. Then you should expect some people not to come and like be ok with that.

View Quoted Comment I agree with you there. We're not inviting kids to our wedding, and we've accepted that some guests may not be there because of that.

I didn't allow kids at the ceremony but I had the church nanny babysit so the parents really didn't care much considering they were familiar with her already. I did allow kids at reception. I'm also one to think all or none

This is your wedding, and if you don't want kids, you shouldn't invite kids. Just be prepared for some guests to decline if they can't bring their kids, especially if they have to travel by plane to attend. But some won't feel that way. If it were me, for example, I would probably look forward to a weekend getaway without the kids, plus the additional bonus of not having to buy a plane ticket for them too. I'd be dropping them off at grandma's for the weekend. But a lot of parents won't travel without their kids, so that alone may get you a lot of declines.

I'm not saying you should have kids so more people can/will attend. I totally get your point about the expense. Kids count as "guests" in terms of headcounts and catering, and meals, so it will cost you more to have kids there. It's not an easy decision, whichever way you go. Good luck.

I am now getting “kick back” of people complaining that the wedding( held at a Resort/ Casino 500 miles away from where we live, and the venue prefers no children) is ‘Child Free’.

My number drastically increases with my FH cousins who each have 3-6( NOT well behaved!) kids, and several of his friends who have 2-6 kids. So if, and I do NOT want to remove the few people *I* want at the wedding- so he will have to cut His list, we have these kids we are looking at 25+ kids from ages 4-16.

I feel this is a perfect opportunity for grandma of friends to watch the kid for 2 days, or even one!, and the parents have a ‘Romantic Getaway’ child free.

FH is saying this is not a thing he wants to deal with- the people saying they’d come BUT.... or me saying I don’t want your cousins destructive, rude kids there.
If he increases the budget to include them, the additional payment to venue for any destruction these kids are going to cause, & HE takes the drama sure. But, he owes me Big for going back on the “child free” that I want- and the venue would prefer.

Plus what do I do about the “No touchy table” of “Harry Potter” items that I don’t want to walk off and these kids will either take or destroy? Not have it? Not an option. This is MY wedding and I shouldn’t have to give in on 95% of it for everyone else’s whims.
Or the kid entertainment? Why should I have to add that expense in when they were not supposed to be there, thus taking away from flowers/DJ/photos?, plus aren’t behaved enough to sit thru an adults wedding?

Backstory: FH 50th Birthday, has at our home, the cousins kids came w/parents and broke 4 figurines, the corn hole boards- brand new for that event!, chased my cats and shot nerf darts( yeah they got told on that one- shot them and asked how it felt!) into them, and acted like 2yo’s who didn’t get their way at age 10! So, now you see why I do NOT want the drama these 14 kids will bring to a high end casino!!!

HELLLLLLLLLLLP!