Kids Free Wedding

Personally, I would have my DOC ask them to leave politely. We're also having a kid free wedding, aside from our two flower girls.

View Quoted Comment Hi Amber, thank you for responding!! Yes I was thinking maybe our matre d can politely go over and sort the situation. What would you do if it was a close family member? Still the same? I’m glad I found someone who is also having a kids free lol

I can’t imagine kicking someone out of my wedding because they brought a child, but it’s within your right to do so.

View Quoted Comment Hi there, on my invitation it does say adult only and I have spoken to people about it being child free... if they still come with the child I think that’s a tad rude... however that aside the reason I’m asking was because I do not want to offend someone who didn’t bring their child imagine they’re like hey why can they bring theirs but I can’t bring mine... that’s more so what I am worried about

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To me, I would just find it really disrespectful if we invited someone to be a part of our big day with one request (no children) and they weren't able to respect our wishes. FH and I love kids, but it's our wedding and we don't want them there. We've made that clear to our guests, so if someone STILL brought their children just because they felt like it, I would be a little hacked off.

Someone showed up with their young kids at my cousin’s wedding (which was child free) the couple just kind of rolled with it, but the family “volunteered” to drive instead of taking the bus to the venues with everyone else.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for understanding!

View Quoted Comment Hi Erin! Do you know if anyone else was offended when they saw the children? My co worker attended a kid free wedding for her brother in law, someone from the other side brought their kids and my co worker was so offended how come certain kids were there 🤷🏼‍♀️

View Quoted Comment A few family members (the family in question were also family) were upset because they felt the couple was being rude, but no one was upset about it in regards to the no children rule. All the irritation was with the family and not the couple, and it was gone by the time we got to the. Ceremony location because it was deemed a silly thing to be bothered by, and it was more of a representation of the family than anything else.

View Quoted Comment I’m sure that if that was the situation, everyone would give the side eye to the family that brought their children against your wishes, not you.

Are you really having a black tie wedding with all the many demands that imposes: live music, valet parking, white-gloved service of plated dinner, etc., etc.? To quote a much-missed professional in the field:

If you claim you're having a black tie affair -- via invitation (simple black engraved script on white or ivory invitations), you're a poser unless you make damn sure you are hosting an after six, Saturday evening event, have valet parking, cloak room services, passed champagne upon entrance, chef prepared, exotic and plentiful apps that have nothing to do with grapes, crackers, fruit, and cheese, seating charts/not table charts, calligraphy on every wedding related communique, table side, to order entrees from a large selection of entrees and a multi-course meal, a sommelier, a full, top shelf open bar, a live band with another live band to cover for the first band during their break, absolutely, top of line florals and decor, white gloved service, a Viennese hour, favors that will go into a curio cabinet and not into your mouth on the way home, and every woman in a gown and every man in a tux -- then knock it off with the attire requirements.

by The Centerpiece Flowers

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My cousin brought her one year old with her to my child free wedding after being told multiple times that no children were allowed. As I was preparing to walk from my bridal suite to the beginning of the stairs where I'd make my descend ( at this point my mom and sister were at the bottom of the stairs and so was everyone else except my two escorts down who were my cousin and my hubby's cousin, both young college boys). We stepped out of the bridal suite and began to walk to the stairs when I hear my name being called, I look to the side and see my cousins who are waving and smiling at me, to their side my other cousin pulls out a baby stroller from the trunk of the car. No one else was near us, I went to walk towards the car because I wanted to tell them to leave but the photographer gave me the signal to start walking so I turned towards the altar and began my walk. I was furious the whole way down and nervous and kept telling my cousin that I was so embarrassed because at least 85% of our guests left their children at home, even my husbands best friend who had a three week old ( they were told they could bring their baby), they made arrangements. Anyway, I walk down marry my man and at the end of our ceremony when we had our receiving line, when it came to my cousin I thanked her for coming and told her she can leave after dinner. They (she and her mom) had to drive almost 2 hours to get to my wedding so I told them to eat dinner and go. Her mom did manage to get so drunk that she went to fall asleep in the car because she could not make it past dinner. The night of my wedding one person mentioned it to me, I was bothered but thankful that they left peacefully and I did not have to ask security or anyone else to get involved. Worst part is that since then they just kind of stopped talking to us. My wedding was amazing!!! Those that you fear may bring children anyway, make it very clear and text them or communicate it in a way where you have proof. Stand your ground!!!

We are having a kid free wedding besides immediate family. We have 5 kids that are all in the wedding, my sister has 3 and his sister has 5 older kids. We put it on the invite and told everyone. Our wedding is in 2 months and his aunt just asked him today if his cousin can bring her 2 small kids. He was going to tell her yeah but I'm like no way. That's so rude to do to other people that are paying sitters and making arrangements.

You can't say, in an invite, who can't come, but you can write "Adam and Emily" on the invite and not list their children. I would HIGHLY recommend electronic RSVP's as you can only fill in two guests, guests are unable to write four are coming when only two are invited.

I will say right now, with love, hydrate and carbo load because people are VERY resistant when it comes to this topic. Me? I have two kids in college but when they were little the last place I would take them was a wedding!!! Have a kid free night and party!!! If someone pulls a "Well if my kids are not coming, we are not coming" (and someone will, I promise) smile and say "Sorry we will miss you, let's get together after the wedding."