Kids can come to the shower?

I would think so. As long as they know the wedding is another situation, that should suffice.

I don't think kids really belong at a shower, so I would only say anything if they happen to ask you.

View Quoted Comment I disagree - I always enjoyed attending showers with my mom as a kid (like 7 and older...I.e. old enough to behave). Shower games were fun! I suppose I was well behaved and I got along with adults when I was young.

As as long as the hostess of your shower doesn’t mine I’m sure it would be fine.

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I haven't actually been to a traditional bridal shower since I was around that age so all my memories are those of a child's! Lol. I agree that they were fun though!

But I agree with PPs that I'm going overboard with this one. I'll just let it go for now and if it comes up, tell my friends their kids are welcome.

The host of one of my showers included the kids names on the invite but I think a call would suffice too.

around here if a shower is hosted at someone’s home most people assume kids are welcome. Honestly I am not a fan of kids but it wasn’t a big deal to me to have them at my shower. We did not invite kids to the wedding.



Afternoon tea at a restaurant is a different story. Most guests got the hint it wasn’t appropriate to bring them.

I guess the only thing I don’t understand is why it’s ok to include kids at the shower but not the wedding, but that isn’t allowed per etiquette when it comes to adult guests.

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Honestly, it's just not a big deal to me since the shower will be outdoors and relatively casual. But I agree to the point that putting their names on invitations would be weird and a little rude. I was just thinking that it would be a nice gesture when there are only 3 women that this affects - two of whom's children I know well and am relatively close with.

Because of the mixed responses though, I think I'm overthinking it and it's not worth the trouble.