Kids at Wedding??

Some people may disagree, but I believe that since it’s your wedding you can do what you want. F you only want to invite children that are in your family I would totally understand as a guest.

I think it makes sense to state no kids except for family! As a guest, I would totally understand.

Your guests will never express their thoughts to you. But a vast majority sees it rude..falling in line with etiquette experts...when youmake exceptions for any children if you say "adult only. That includes wedding party, babies, the bride/groom's children. Either have zero children on the guest list or allow any/all to attend. But there's no polite way to have "special" children in attendance, while not allowing others.


When in doubt anytime you wonder 'is this rude?" it probably is, so consult Emily Post or Miss Manners first. Etiquette rules are written in stone to navigate social situations and do not waver because someone doesn't like it. It's worlds different from tradition that can be tossed out at will.

We’re having a child free wedding too! I have told everyone (family & friends) that the only children that will be there are the 9 yr old flower girl & her 2 yr old brother (who are family) who’s the ring bearer. I have been to so many weddings where all you see are kids running around like it’s a great big playground because the parents are not taking care of them. I just feel like it takes away from the intimacy of the moment. My fiancé & I know that our decision will mean that some will not attend & it also will offend some. Even the response cards state “Adult Ceremony & Reception.” At the end of the day it’s our wedding (we’re paying for everything) & that’s what we want!

We had a kid-friendly wedding, but we also provided a babysitter.

If there aren't any other kids there, would it be better to have them for the ceremony and then pop them into a hotel room with games and a movie and a sitter?

Children in the wedding party are typically exempt from the "no child" rule.

Agee with PP. Children in the wedding party are the exception to adults only weddings. If the 4 kids in question are in your wedding, then you shouldn't have any problem with your plan.

We had a kid free wedding except for those in the wedding party. If all four are in the wedding, then I think you will be fine.

It's your wedding you make the rules. A child free wedding beside your wedding party is generally a good idea anyway. Most children get bored and start getting restless during weddings anyway.