Kids at Wedding

I think people would naturally understand that your own son is an exception to the 'no kids' rule. Sounds perfectly fine to me

Yeah, most people would understand if you wany to have your son be apart of your wedding. If you don't want him for the reception, make sure you have a babysitter to pick him up and take him home.

Yeah i agree with pp i think people know your own kid would be there but that all other kids wouldn't be permitted is ok for an adult only event

I think having your son be there should be fine. Babies and children in the wedding are generally an exception. One of our groomsmen brought his nine month daughter to our rehearsal dinner and informed us then that she would be at the wedding. We had asked for no one to bring kids, but they assumed that didn't include him. I ended up having to speak with the venue to add a high chair to their table since they didn't tell us until the night before that she would be at the wedding. My husband's two nieces and two nephews were also at the wedding since they were in the wedding. No one said a word anything about the five children being there when we didn't invite children to the wedding.

Kids are an all or nothing thing. Never assume that your other guests will not be upset by having your son there even if some are understanding. Do what works for you but warn guests ahead of time.

Since you don't want him at the reception, is it possible to take pics with him before the ceremony avoid backlash from other guests?

This is a great exception to the "no kids" rule. I don't think anyone would bat an eye at your son being there after telling everyone else no kids, especially if you have a sitter for him for the reception. I think this is totally fine!

We are only allowing kids in our family to attend, our friends know this and are fine with finding babysitters for the night and understand. I’d hope people would be understanding like that for your own son.

This is a clear cut, perfectly acceptable exception to the no kids rule.

Just because your son attends doesnt mean everyone else should be attending especailly if you don't want kids attending. Your child should be there so i dont think ppl would feel anyway

I agree - this is the only exception to the no kids rule that people won't blink an eye at. He's your son.

Anyone who argues with that is telling on themselves.

I said no kids for my wedding but there are exceptions such as family members coming from out of state, my nephews (8 & 11), and my little brother (11). We'll also have some teens (family) all over 14. I took 24 kids off of the list when I was planning the guest list. People will just have to understand that there are some kids who are more of a priority for the bride and groom when it comes to the wedding, especially with the cost of everything and the amount of space available.

Your own child is a very different story than an all or nothing rule. The all or nothing applies to guests.


But it really is a moot point if you yourself do not want him at the reception. Just arrange a babysitter that can pick him up after the photos.

Don't worry about others. it makes sense that your son will be there. though the after party is for adults. its your day, have fund. if you want a compromise maybe kids only at ceremony and not at reception.

He is the son of the couple, people will absolutely understand and even expect him to be there! You can have him in the ceremony, then hire a babysitter to watch him in a separate room during the party.