Hi all, just curious if anyone has ever had/or may have kids at their bridal shower? My sister just told me there is a lady who wants to come but her husband works a lot and will be working day of. Her two babysitters are my friends and will be at the party so no luck there. She has a little girl, boy, and baby. All under 6. Thoughts?
I had 4 little girls at my shower, 1 - 4 years old. All at various stages of behaving. They were fine. I would rather have had their moms' there than have them miss it for a little bit of a quieter event.
A ton of the people that will be invited to the shower in my hometown have kids so I’m assuming several kids will be there. Growing up, I always attended showers with my mom because I loved everything about weddings. Most of the showers I’ve been to have had at least 4 or 5 kids there. It’s a common thing!
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This. I have been to, and given, a lot of showers where mom's had to bring kids. It has always been fine, no mis eha in, and better than having mom's miss the part. I don't know about near you, but here, Care.com sitters want $25 an hour, add $5 when more than 2 kids. And you pay an extra half hour to get them acquainted with kids. 4 hours minimum, at $25 to $30 an hour is more than most people can pay to attend a shower . I don't have $100-$120 laying around for an extra party, if already paying g a sitter 6-10 hours for a wedding, plus shower gift and wedding gift. And everyone at showers I have been to has accepted the few kids whose mom's just don't have the choice, either a free or regular sitter, or money for a top dollar gig sitter.
I have brought my son to bridal showers when he was younger. He was also either an infant or kids were invited to the shower. He used to love helping hand the presents to the bride. I think age 6 and under would be ok, but that depends on the kids. If they’re known to be out of control, you may want to deny the request. If they’re generally well behaved, you probably wouldn’t notice them being there.
I see some other posters talking about searching for a sitter online. Honestly I would never be comfortable doing that no matter how good the reviews were. I am also not sure I would appreciate someone telling me to go find a random stranger online so I can attend a bridal shower, even though it would be a well intentioned suggestion. My point is to consider the mothers reaction before telling her this. If she’s asking, give her the benefit of the doubt that she’s looked into all her options and just decide if you’re ok with kids or not.
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I would never ask her to do that. That’s why I asked. I think If I had my own kids I would have trouble leaving them with some random person. I think she ended up deciding not to go though regardless.
There were kids at all 3 of my showers. They were all well behaved, and if anything they provided entertainment. Everyone made all over the babies, and I had the older girls help me open presents and pass stuff around to guests.
I think it depends on the type of shower. sometimes the shower gifts can be a little naughty and i personally wouldn’t want my young child asking any questions and passing that info along to other young children (because that was me as a child 😂). i think if you and the parents feel comfortable with it then why not!