Kids At a Wedding

We have no children allowed at our wedding from our guests, but our two niece's and our nephew will be in the wedding party. We got some push back, but stay firm. To avoid this, we put "Adult Affair Only" on the RSVP cards. People have WAY to many children and would have inflated our guest list by at least 75 people. No thank you. Do NOT beat yourself up over it, it is your party and you are the governor.

I think as long as you keep it at "only children involved in the ceremony" are included then you should be fine. Don't cave and allow your cousin to bring a kid but not everyone else. Inviting in "circles" is the best bet.

I wouldn't care if kids weren't invited if the only kids there were in the wedding. I think cherry picking some kids & not others is odd for normal guests, but not for wedding party kids.

Kids that are involved in the wedding or children in immediate family are an exception to the no kids rule.

Thank you so much for your help. It keep me calm down and make my choice and stick it to it.

Thank you so much for your help. It keep me calm down and make my choice and stick it to it.

It's actually become normal for my family and friends who have gotten married over the last few years to only allow the bride and grooms kids and kids in the wedding party. A Lot of adults think of it as a grown ups day/night out to enjoy themselves and the wedding.

We are actually doing the same. we have family and friends who want to come to both the ceremony and the wedding, some only the ceremony, and then the ones who only want to come to the reception..... the only kids allowed to stay the whole evening are our kids (my 5 & his 3) and the kids in the wedding party.

as far as family and friends kids, kids are allowed to attend the ceremony. reception is 18+ only reception is where the bank can break

I'm doing the same thing! We are wording it on our wedding website (not doing written RSVP's) like this "Unfortunately due to space limitations, we are having an adults-only ceremony/reception. The only children attending are those who are part of our wedding party."

It's completely reasonable to not have children attend as guests besides the kids in the wedding. Lots of people have opinions about whether or not children should attend weddings with many people believing everyone and their kids should be invited because "it's just tradition." I reject these ideas because the guests aren't paying for the wedding and it's not their day. I won't be having children at my wedding and I couldn't be happier about it. Just remember that if you're paying for it, your opinion is the only one that matters. Some guests may be grumpy, but that's on them. Just be clear that it's an "adults-only" event and don't waver if people pressure you about it. You can say politely tell people that unless they're willing to completely cover the costs for their kid's food, seating, transportation, and hire an on-site sitter, then it's kids-free. That'll shut them up lol.