Kids a the wedding

Have you asked your caterer if they have a different price for children under a certain age? I believe most of them do.

If not, it's totally fine to only invite children of immediate family or even have no kids altogether. When you send out your invitations, you can include "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor" on your RSVP cards so people know exactly how many in the household are invited

I would just not invite any children besides the ones that are a part of the wedding party. I don’t really think it’s fair that certain people are allowed to bring their children and others aren’t. Regardless if they are family or not. A kid free wedding would be the easiest thing to do.

What does your caterer count as a kid? I would say anyone over 10 should have a full adult meal. Under 10, hopefully the caterer has some options.

Our children guests were much cheaper than adults since they didn't drink and got a kids meal (if they were under 12).

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It's absolutely fair to invite immediate family children only. If a guest is going to get mad because the bride/groom invite children they have a relationship with and doesn't invite their child they have absolutely no relationship with, that guest has issues. It's 100% fair to invite family members children and not friend's children.

View Quoted Comment It’s just a personal preference. I wouldn’t tell certain people their kid was invited and others that their kid was not. But we just said no kids for our wedding to make it simple. That’s all.

I'd do as PpS suggested in seeing what is even counted as a kid
For us, kids were counted as whomever had a seat. So we paid by seat rather than plate.
If kids under a certain age need a plate then I would just x out kids if it's not in your budget

Don't feel bad about not including kids in your wedding reception just be sure whatever rule you make ( immediate family only, flower girl and ring bearer only or whatever) That you stick to it for everyone once you start making exceptions for certain people is when feelings get hurt

No, you can just have the immediate family bring the kid, I allowed kids at mine and majority them still did not bring them because they did not want to have to worry about them.

We are having a "no kids" wedding, but our venue/caterer also charges less per head for children.