Kicking out a bridesmaid

Why did she leave and now why does she want to come back?

Was there a reason for her exit or was it just a temper tantrum?


I would be skeptical...so I guess context would determine my response to her.
Sorry you're in this position!

View Quoted Comment Without getting into too many details, she left because of an argument she had with my fiancé. It was mostly based on her not agreeing with out political views and she was literally screaming about it. She said some very unkind things about me and our soon to be marriage and then said she didn’t want to be apart of the wedding anymore. She has now resolved things with my fiancé and said she wants to be back in the wedding. She has yet to try to talk to me about it.
And like I said above, she was a really awful bridesmaid prior to all of this.

View Quoted Comment Maybe you can change her role to a reader so that it appeases you’re FH’s desire to have her still be a part of things and cause she already has a dress anyway she can wear.

View Quoted Comment It was mostly a temper tantrum stemming from an argument she had with my fiancé (see my previous comment about it) but she said a lot of awful things about our relationship. She also never replied to ANY texts or returned calls regarding the wedding from me or my MOH. Me, my fiancé, and their other sister have already spoken to her about replying to texts and call regarding the wedding but it never improved.

View Quoted Comment Then I would decline to bring her back into the wedding party. It's unfortunate, but you don't need drama on top of the already ever present stress of planning a wedding. ::hugs:: hopefully that doesn't cause any frustration with your FH. Good luck, hun. ❤

I would talk to your fiance first and explain how she was as a bridesmaid and how her removing herself and then adding herself is questionable. Who is to say they won't fight again. I would see how he feels and if he is adamant for her to stay as she is family then I would not count on her to do anything rather be there the day of. Keep her abreast of pre wedding plans if you are having any but she does not need to be included in the planning. I agree if she wants to be in then he needs to encourage her to reach out to you. If your fh is on your side about not having her then I would let her know that she decided to remove herself and what she said about you and your wedding was hurtful. It comes down to do you want to have a close relationship with her post wedding.

Because it’s your FH’s sister, I’d have him make the final decision. Regardless though she owes you both an apology!

That's a tough one. Personally I wouldn't let her back in because what if it happens again? I found out the hard way that the less people the less drama. Wedding planning is stressful enough, don't add/keep extra stress around you. I do like the idea of having her as a reader though. That is cute and still meaningful. And shes still a part of the wedding.

This is really difficult, and I'm so sorry you're going through this additional drama. Normally I would say "Hell no," but she is your FH's sister and he did express that it's important for him that she's a part of the bridal party. Our country is so incredibly divided of late, and it's tearing family apart, so please don't feel like you're alone. I firmly believe, however, that as an adult, there is simply no reason to result to personal attacks to you and your fiance as a couple. That's crossing a boundary. HOWEVER, this is your fi's sister, and he wants here there. Definitely have a heart to heart with him. Maybe she can be a groomswoman and wear her bridesmaid's dress so that she's still in the BP and you don't have to deal with her while getting ready or if you have pre-wedding events.

Nope! Just for the sake of your fiancé. If you both want her to do a reading, that might be an option. Otherwise no.

Your fiancé can have her stand on his side and she can wear the dress she already bought.

Nope. I would not let her back in. She hasn't been a good BM, and she said awful things to you and FH, and never reached out to you to work things out, only her brother. Nope!

If FH wants her to be a part of the wedding so badly, he can have her on his side. Don't let her manipulate you!!