Kick future sis in law out my wedding??

Give him a chance to talk to her.

Give him a chance to talk to her. I think siblings should be in the wedding unless their is a big reason to not have them.

Have you talked with her about how important it is? Are you guys close at all or is she just in the wedding for your FH?

Yes Im going to wait for him to talk to her..i too believe that our siblings should be involved...just scared that me being too nice might be taken advantage of and I go into panic mode at the last minute. :-/

Amy...yes..we are semi close...but I more so asked her to be in the wedding for him....idk what happened at first she was all aboard with ideas, etc. Now idk...I don't care if someone may need a little extra time to purchase-times are hard and, we still have some time but at least communicate with me is all I'm asking....

You are being reasonable with your expectations. Has she been in a wedding before? She may just be clueless. Looking back on the first time I was in a wedding, I realize I could have been a lot better. I just didn't know.

If I were you I would not even worry about it. I stressed so much asking my BMs to buy/try on their dresses it drove me nuts.

You already prompted her not its her turn. If she buys the dress then good if she puts it off, waits, the dres becomes unavailable or she doesn't get it at all then its her OWN fault and u don't have to deal with kicking her out

edit: I had to fight wih one of my bridesmaids to try her dress on and make sure its ordered. and I mean weeks and weeks of it and I finally gave up and she went and did it thank god but she is your BM you shouldn't have to constantly remind her

Lmbo @ Lynnnie....u are right...I'm trying not to stress. I guess im stressing a little only because its his sister and I don't want any drama. So ill let it be for now and see how it plays out

I might just ask her if she got it and state you were sorry for bugging her but that it is important to have the dresses ordered so they come in time, etc. I would just let her know it is important to you.

Have your FH talk to her and tell her she needs to order it.

My maid of honour was the last one to order the dress and did so after the date that was recommended by the bridal store and it's ok, she will have her dress soon... I would let your FH deal with her and leave it at that.

I guess you could tell your fiance what the deadline to hear form her is and, if it isn't met, then you have no choice except to go with someone else. But that's the harsher way.

I don't think I'd ruin a relationship with my future sister in law over one day. I know weddings are important but I think the long-term implications of "kicking her out of your wedding" are not going to be pretty (both in terms of your relationship with her, FH, and the rest of your in-laws). While she is in the wrong, your wedding is in June and she still has 6 months.

I reached a decision with all of my BMs, once I'd communicated the deadline for ordering, that if they didn't have a dress, that was their issue. I wouldn't stress about it. If she doesn't have the dress, she's removed herself and you don't look bad for kicking her out.

I agree with what's been said here - you've said you're not happy, FH is talking to her, now let it be. It's hard to do, but I think it might be best.

Depending on where she's getting the dress from, there's still plenty of time. It took 2 weeks for me to get a dress from David's Bridal; I felt like an idiot buying it in December for a May wedding.

She knows you're unhappy, and your fiance is going to talk to her. I'd try to leave it be.

The worst thing that could happen is that she never buys the dress, and therefore automatically takes herself out of the wedding party. Kicking her out is usually a friendship-ender, so ... not a situation I'd want to be in with a sister-in-law.

Let it go if she doesn't then she won't be in it her call don't harass her

Honestly, the best thing I did for our wedding was to kick out a then-close friend from the wedding because she procrastinated for MONTHS. Same situation that you are experiencing: no communication, saying she would do it later, etc. etc. She never got her act together, and in hindsight, I just wished I had asked her to attend as a guest sooner to not deal with the months of BS and stress. I'd give yourself a new dead line, like "if FH doesn't talk to her by the end of this week, then she is out," and STICK TO IT. Otherwise it will stress you out, and if she were to pull through, the battle has only just begun. What about shoes? Getting the dress hemmed/altered? Make up/hair appointments? Meeting up for the rehearsal? If she is blowing you off already for something you gave ample notice and a clear deadline, I would be worried about how flaky/non communicative she will be down the road as the stress starts to build.

I think Allyson gave you the best advice. Understand what is a problem for you and what is a problem for HER. Also know that this is a long term relationship.

Up to her now. Let it go.

I posted an issue recently about my niece. I'm pretty sure she ordered the wrong size and her dress won't fit. You know what? Not my problem. I asked her to try on the dress and get measured, and she phoned it in. I told her that sizes work differently and expressed my concerns about the size she ordered. She assured me that the dress will fit because that's the size she ordered when she was a BM before. Ok. Right. It will fit, even though it won't. My MOH is a size 4 and had to order a size 10 in that dress. Niece is a real size 10 and ordered a 10. Whatever. Not my problem anymore.

Good luck.

No, of course you should not kick out your FSIL. It is a nasty and unecessary thing to do that could potentially cause years worth of negative feelings with her and your in-laws. She is an adult. You have given her the details of the dress. Leave her alone and let her order it. What is the worst thing that can happen in the situation? She doesn't order the dress or it doesn't come in time, so she does not stand up as a BM and is instead a guest at your wedding. If that happens, it is on her, not you. It's not the end of the world and you will still be married. Relax.