Keeping in touch with venue?

I don’t think it’s stupid, but I don’t think that it’s useful. There’s no way for them to tell you what things are going to be like in 10-11 months. They don’t know either.

My wedding is next May, and it's taken a lot of willpower not to email our venue coordinator to find out how they are handling things. But I know it would not be a good use of either of our times...she can't possibly know what restrictions will be in place in nine months, and her focus right now is supporting Aug/Sep/Oct, etc. couples. They need her more than I do right now. I get it - I totally do- but honestly, you'll either get a false sense of security or a false sense of doom, so personally I've left her alone and will probably not reach out until we're about six months out when our first walk through is due.

You definitely don't need to, but if you want to for some peace of mind, it's fine if you do. You can even connect it to your save the dates if that makes you feel less awkward. If you don't have a good sense of when things are supposed to happen (ex. food tastings), ask about that.

Hi [Coordinator],

I hope you're doing well. We just sent out our save the dates (include a picture if you want to), so I thought it would be a good time to check in. When is the next time we should meet to discuss our wedding? Is there anything else we should know or information you need from us?

Please let us know.

Thank you!

Ursula & [Partner]

View Quoted Comment I love that - a false sense of security or a false sense of doom. I know it’s just my anxiety, and you’re right that there are definitely other couples who need her attention right now.

No definitely touch base, that’s what they are there for! Touch base as many times as you’d like

To be honest it’s way too early like way too early they are all dealing with the crap right now that’s priority yours won’t be even a thought as of right now. Next year will be fine so try and enjoy the glow of planning the best you can. I planned during this mess and am finally 10days out from our wedding day. Please don’t stress I have been doing enough stressing for you too lol !! It will be ok and you will be a beautiful bride try and relax! Xoxo

I am in a similar situation! We booked our venue in February for our August 2021 wedding in NYC. I am also very anxious about next summer. On some odd days I am excited and work on planning details, but most days I’m just sad and nervous about what next year will look like. I am also looking to send out save the dates next month as I originally planned, but I keep going back and forth about whether I should send them given everything that is going on. I am also tempted to talk about this with the venue but I agree that it might not be very helpful right now. My venue updates their online calendar with bookings and 2021 is jammed packed with weddings planned from March - December 2021 so I would feel silly asking about potentially having to postpone a wedding scheduled for next summer when they’re dealing with 2020 postponements and no one knows what is going to happen. My fiancé and I have decided that we will postpone if things do not improve since we would want to have our full guest list, dancing, no masks or health concerns, etc. so I have been tempted to ask if postponing would be possible if we are not comfortable with the restrictions next year, but will just hold off for now and try to stay positive. It really sucks to have to try to plan “as normal” because it’s too far out but have that fear and anxiety hanging over the planning because there is a big possibility that this will go on for a long time :/

Like some others have said it’s really not going to be useful to reach out at this point. Does the venue have a website where they show weddings or their Instagram where they post weddings? I’ve been following my venue and see they are still holding weddings so that eases my nerves about it all. If you can follow the venue on social media to see that weddings are still happening that would be good.

Definitely touch base! I touch base once a month just to be sure since things change soo quickly these days

View Quoted Comment They haven’t been posting weddings but they’re still open - it’s a restaurant as well as a venue and they’ve been posting photos of people eating in their outdoor dining etc. They never really posted that many wedding photos to begin with (but definitely host a lot, I know several people who have been to weddings there). I wish they did though!!

There's no harm in touching base with your coordinator but it's very unlikely they'll be able to give you much useful information about how July 2021 might be effected at this point. If connecting with them gives you comfort, do it. Also it might be nice for you to send them a little "just thinking of you" note because they are probably struggling and adapting to how Covid is impacting their business and kindness is always appreciated.

I booked ab August 2021 destination wedding in March, so I get it. I've touched base a couple times because I actually went back down to do my food tasting (they encouraged doing it early and since I was going to be there on a regularly scheduled vacation anyway it worked out), but they didn't hold any weddings from mid-March until July 3. So I definitely worried some. And it made me book other vendors sooner than I thought since I knew other people were postponing weddings from this year. My coordinator has been great answering emails. She's just as confused and trying to take it day by day as we are, but she is there to answer questions.


Good luck!!!