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Just Said Yes November 2019

Keep or move the date?

Brittney, on June 30, 2019 at 9:30 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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So we the FH and I were picking wedding dates, we came down to 4 dates. One in August (just because that's what was available), one on September 21 (like the song September), one in October (just because that's what was available), and one at the end of November (the 23 to be exact). We picked the latest one because we thought that we were picking a financially wise decision, but we still wanted the September date.
Now that we're 5 months out, we really want to go back to the September date because we're both tired of waiting to be husband and wife, we financially can't afford two separate apartments (our parents won't let us move in together because they're religious), and we started to realize that our wedding wasn't what we want (it's been dictated by everyone else).
Now that we've realized this we want to change the date to the 21 of September, our venues are available, and it would be hard to reschedule with our vendors (most of which are friends and family). The only problem is that we already sent out save the dates and that people from out of town have already started to make plans for November.
We're not really sure of what else to do right now, but we're looking for advice from the WW community.

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on July 1, 2019 at 11:43 AM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on June 30, 2019 at 9:40 AM
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I wouldn't move the date. You risk losing vendors or deposits, some of your guests not being able to attend, etc. If you're old enough and mature enough to make the decision to get married, you're also capable of deciding when you will move in together. This sounds like a great time to establish boundaries with your parents and take control of your own lives instead of allowing them to dictate your wedding and your living arrangements.

I also just noticed that we live in the same area (assuming you live near NKU) and we have the same date!
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Michelle · on June 30, 2019 at 9:53 AM
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You need to keep the date since save the dates already went out. And it's only two months from the original date. Plus one of you would have to break your lease. If the lease breaking isn't an issue move back home for those two months to save money
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Dedicated October 2019
Kelsy · on June 30, 2019 at 10:44 AM
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Or you could got to the court house get married, move in together and still have a November wedding.
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D · on June 30, 2019 at 11:50 AM
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Keep the date you put on the STDs. It's about 2 months difference and the guests are already making or have made plans. Whether you decide to move in together before marriage is up to you and your FS.
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CDickman · on June 30, 2019 at 12:16 PM
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If you are paying for your apartment why does your parents get any say so on your living arrangements? I agree with the above statement
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Jennifer · on July 1, 2019 at 11:43 AM
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If your families insist on the living arrangements, would moving home for a few months be viable? If not, I would explain the financial situation to them. if they insist you live apart, I would ask them for help with your rent then (same for FH with his parents). You aren't the one who is choosing this, and they are putting a strain on you by doing this. That, or just move in together and keep it secret haha! As for the date, keep it the same. Guests and vendors will have a lot of confusion if you change it last minute.
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