Just wondering how do you guys balance work and engagement life out

Sometimes I've had to sacrifice either my personal time or social life to get a spare moment with my spouse- especially when we were both working overtime, him 6 days a week 12 hours and me working my usual 5 days 40 hour weeks but 16 hours on Saturday and Sunday combined. We would set aside phones for an evening and enjoy a meal and wine together or do a fun activity.

View Quoted Comment Sounds like my schedule and I try to do that also seems hard I kinda feel like so much coming up now

View Quoted Comment I understand that! Its hard not to feel that way. I know we live together and did so before we got married. That made spending time together easier

It’s tough because sometimes you can barely find time for yourself but it is so important to find some time even an hour just to do something with and for each other

It sucks but sometimes you have to schedule things and make sacrifices. Nothing good comes Easy. You have to work at it. make time for him and yourself.

Plan date nights- even if you cant go out. Order dinner in with wine, get dressed up take some pics, dance around the house, have a movie night- pop popcorn, have a pamper me night. Both give massages to each other. Try to be creative and do fun stuff (picnic) if they are surprises or something you guys will look forward to it.

It Can Be Hard To Find Balance, But After You Get A Feel For A Routine You Will Learn. Make Sure To Make Time For Yourself. My FH And I Are Both Navy, Hes On Deployment Right And Has Been Gone Since October, One Week After We Had Our 2nd Son. On Top Of Him Being Gone, Me Working, Being A Mom, Full Time College Student And Planning Our Wedding It Gets HARD. I Don't Have Anyone To Help Out Here Either. When He Is Home Though I Ask For Breaks When I Need Them Because I Get Stressed Easily. Prioritize Your Needs! Focus On The Big Picture Of Your Relationship. Ask For Help Or A Break Whenever It Is Needed. Plan A Small Weekend Getaway, Date Nights, Etc. You Will Be Okay! You Got This!

Balancing is hard and honestly it will only get harder. My FH and I have been together 5 years and lived together 3. We bought our retirement home last year in another country and have yet to buy our forever home here. He works 4 / 12s and I work 5 / 10s - Our evenings together are short at best. Our weekends are really our only time together. I'd say I sacrificed an outside life, but honestly I love my FH and love spending time with him above anyone else.

You have to find a balance that works for you and your FH. We tend to really struggle when his son comes to visit because he feels like he's failing at balancing us and time with his son. all I can say it's a constant struggle, but talk it out, work out a plan and stick to it to the best you can. Knowing that sometimes it's OK to deviate.