Hey gals hope your wedding planning is going better than mine. My wedding is in April and I am so over it and wish we could just go to the courts and be done. My parents and fiances parents have been causing us to stress like crazy and argue with them and each other. Sorry for the long post just need somewhere to vent.
1. We initially found a small venue (diy venue they only provided table and chairs) for 5 grand with everything maybe total 8 grand without our attire. I loved it but fiances parents said we needed a bigger place to accommodate all the guests. So we went to a bigger plan and they assured us they would put half the $$ for this venue (14 k so 7 from them 7 for us). So everything was good until fiances dad said he would be able to anymore because he lost his job. So not we are frantic because we do not have the other 7 to put so we start to cut costs (no day of coordinator, no paying parking, cut flowers, cheaper cake, change type of catering, etc). So now we feel we can afford (tight but can manage). His parents find out we cut stuff and go off on him and are mad at me stating they didn't confirm they wouldn't help (3 months before the wedding not sure how long they thought we would wait). Now he isn't taking to his parents and they are trying to find info through me and frustrating me so much.
2. My mom is being the most difficult person in the world rn. She is mad at me stating I am not involving her in my wedding planning. However, she is terribly negative and has something bad to say about everything. For example, she told me the wedding dress I purchased (we went to try dresses together but I ultimately found a cheaper one online alone) is ugly and plan and make me look fat. She said the wedding cake design I showed her is plain and looks cheap, the center I love is ugly and weird, and questions why I did certain thing on the invitations, oh and the dress I wore for my STD made me look fat. So we ended up in a screaming (me crying) match because I told her I didn't involve her because she is negative. She said she only gives her opinion and she is just blunt. My mom doesnt give opinions she gives orders (ie the dress is ugly get a new one, change the centerpieces, do a different cake design) and is a narcissistic (only she has ever suffered in life). So now we are not on speaking terms.
This wedding planning is causing issues in our family life and causing me and fiance to be extremely stressed. I am not enjoying or engagement at all due to this. And we are finding ourselves in arguments due o issues with our family. I honestly cant wait for the wedding to come and go and I hate it because this should be one of the happiest times in my life.
Also I suffer from depression and anxiety and this is triggering me terribly.
