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Doxie Mom, on April 28, 2021 at 3:39 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6
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This weekend my fiancé and I had separate bachelorette/bachelor parties in separate cities, before leaving we went to breakfast where his mom works. My fiancé and I have been dating for over 9 years, and when she came to wait on us she said what can I get you to drink and called me by his ex girl friends name. I was so off put. My fiancé and I just stared at each other unsure what to say. His mom didn’t even notice , (or at least pretended not too). I’ve never even talked about the ex with his mother as it was so long ago, so I was just shocked, a little hurt, and truthfully embarrassed. Like why now after 9 years? when I’m suppose to go have a great time at my party (which I def did and didn’t let this effect it at all) I was just so confused.

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Latest activity by Becky, on April 28, 2021 at 9:12 PM
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    Judith ·
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    Oh , I hope my kids are not having crises because I called them their sister or brother or SIL name. It happens fairly often, for no particular reason. And it happens to a lot of adults who themselves are not even aware they did it
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    Does she get along with you at all or is there tension?? After 9 years?!?! I could see if it was like a month. But 9 years?! And she ‘didn’t notice’?? I doubt it. It was probably an attempt at an indirect stab. Unless you both are okay and get along then she might just be brain dead but if not then yes that was a stab.
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  • Hannah
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    Hannah ·
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    Do you typically have a poor relationship? Cuz honestly, my own mom constantly calls me by my brother's name (Mike) or now my niece's name (Harper) without even noticing. It could have been malicious, but it also could've just been a mistake. And if it's a common name, it could've been 1 of her regulars she may have just seated or something and not necessarily his ex's name.
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  • Ava
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    Ava ·
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    I wouldn’t take this personally at all. I have referred to my fiancé as my ex from over 10 years ago (on more than one occasion)! I call my dog my last dog’s (who passed) name all the time. It’s just something random your brain does now and then. I’m sure she didn’t mean anything by it. Especially since she didn’t even notice she had made the mistake.
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  • Ava
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    Ava ·
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    Oh my gosh, this just triggered a memory! When my ex boyfriend’s brother got a new girlfriend (Who later became his fiancé, then his wife) their mother called her my name ALLLLL the time. Like this seriously lasted for years. And obviously she didn’t mean anything by it, since I haven’t even dated that son! LOL If you have always gotten along with your FMIL, I wouldn’t give it a second thought.
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    Becky ·
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    I wouldn't let it bother you. I manage to call my husband by the dog's name sometimes . . . it's just a brain cramp - she probably didn't even notice she'd done it.

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