Just pushed my wedding date back and some of our guest at mad at us

I think that is absolutely absurd for your guests to be mad at that. i am sorry that is the reaction you got. i can see why you did it - at this point nothing is guaranteed. you know what, if they don't go then so be it. you'll get to see who your real friends are through this

Why would you want to be friends with someone who called you stupid and crazy, let alone invite them to your wedding?? If it's family, well, same question.

I think you have an easy decision here: don't invite them to the rescheduled wedding. What do you have to lose?

With today's current uncertainty it is understandable moving your date back. Also the original date is months away so you gave them plenty of heads up on the change of plans. They might be expressing their disappointment incorrectly due to stress but that doesn't give them the right to react that way to a decision that clearly was painful for you to do. They don't show up they miss out on celebrating with you. You did the right thing.

I feel for you. I am so sorry your friend and those other 20 people took their own planning frustrations out on you. It sounds like you handled things as best you could.


I would still invite the 20 people but I am also being incredibly selective in who I am inviting in the first place. If you couldn't imagine your day without them than I think you should send the invitation in that spirit. Otherwise, I would caution you to reconsider why they are being invited if they are not contributing to your happiness on the day.

From an outsiders perspective, it does probably seem like a long time to postpone something. But this is your day, and I wouldn’t invite anyone that is being so blatantly rude and disrespectful. It cost a lot of money to have guests, and you are paying for them to have a wonderful experience on YOUR day. I would not reply or feed into their commentary and maybe it will just all blow over.

I was told that when you decide who you put in your guest list you have to ask yourself,would I invite this person to dinner?would I pay for their whole meal and drinks?Now I know for sure I would neverrrrrr invite anyone who calls me stupid and crazy.

No way, don’t invite them. The stress of whether or not to postpone caused me so much anxiety and many tears—when we finally did postpone for a full year, I felt 10x better and all of my guests were okay with it (to my knowledge at least). That is so crazy and upsetting that people are actually mad at you when you are looking out for their well being. I wouldn’t invite them unless you get an apology. They will be embarrassed by their own behavior and regret acting that way later on.

I agree with pretty much everyone that already replied. Good riddance to those guests! Their actions are extremely disrespectful and I wouldn’t feed into those people anymore. It is clear that those people do not support you and maybe this is a blessing in disguise for you so that you can see their true colors.

I'm really confused... why are they saying that?

I think they just did you a huge favor and revealed who they really are. What they said was not only uncalled for, it was deeply rude, and utterly out of touch with reality.

I'm so sorry.

Don't invite them, they've made it clear how they feel.

Like others have said, I'm sorry you were made to feel anything less than. Only you can decide if you want them there, but I wouldn't pay for or invite someone to indulge at my wedding experience only to be thought of as stupid and crazy.

Why would they be mad considering you’re postponing for your health and theirs? 🤦‍♀️ I would simply kindly reply this decision is for everyone’s health and if they complain or insist they’re not coming I’d reply, “Ok.” Honestly, those people are crazy!