Just one of my pet peeves right now.

I haven't had anyone ask if they were invited, but I had people tell me that they expect an invite. It's definitely frustrating, especially when the guest list is already over the max without them. The response that worked best for me was something along the lines of, "We're still figuring out our guest list. Because of limited venue space, we're not sure that we can invite everyone that we would like to." If we had space, we could invite them later. Otherwise, we didn't.

It is extremely frustrating when people who haven’t reached out in years are asking if they’re invited to my wedding. A few of my dads cousins said to him “oh I’d love to attend”. It’s amazing how badly people want a free meal. We are trying to keep it small we initially only wanted like 65 people. That quickly turned into 110 people and we knocked it down to about 85 or so. We want people there who have supported us throughout the way and not to mention it’s so expensive. My fiancé and I have been together for over 9 years. Some of these people that are expecting an invite have never even met my fiancé before. He also has people on his side that I think they are actually getting an invite that I haven’t met yet.

Omg yes!! I had a co-worker (now ex-co-worker) ask me randomly one day (after I had already sent out my invites) ‘if I invite you to my wedding would you come?’ And I said uhh sure! And then she gave me an oral invite because she was in the beginning steps of planning her wedding, so I ended up mailing her an invite the following week. Now that Covid happened, our wedding was postponed so I used it as an excuse to uninvite her because I’m not really close with her and at this point I don’t even know if she really is getting married or when (she’s a hot mess!)


ALSO! I had a family member a year before not invite my fiancé to her wedding but only me (to travel halfway across the country). She got married a year ago on a Wednesday. So I got engaged and told her and she automatically said ‘oh me and my wife are really excited but she’s going to find a hotel room on her own.’ I think it was just rude of her to assume I’d be inviting her wife when she didn’t invite my fiancé (we’ve been together longer than her and her now wife were).
People stink!! Lol

Yeah, that’s extremely annoying. Or you can tell they are fishing for an invite based on how they are asking about your wedding.
Like, I get it. Weddings are fun.
But I’m not inviting everyone I know to my event. I didn’t even invite family friends for my side. Other than my bridesmaids, my side was strictly family. I know some of my coworkers would like to be there, but at the end of the day, if we don’t hang out outside of work, why would I invite you to one of the most important days of my life? Ugh...people.

I had my twin sister’s EX-Fiancé’s mother ask me why she wasn’t invited. Excuse me?
I also had some neighbors down the street from us express their frustration on one of my Facebook posts about how they weren’t invited and I’ve literally never hung out with them.

One of my co workers is actually pissy about me not inviting her. It’s ridiculous especially considering she didn’t invite me or even tell me when she got married! We are not that close, never hung out outside of work. Not to mention it’s costing me $154/pp So.....ya I don’t have the money to just invite everyone and anyone lol. She apparently makes little comments to other co workers about how she wasn’t invited, and other people from work are. The work people I invited are also my friends...people I actually see and talk to lol

The ONLY benefit to a Covid wedding is that it's the perfect excuse to say, "Sorry, but guest numbers are extremely limited."

It is annoying because some people also don’t realize how expensive weddings even are! The cost per guest is a lot

I just told them due to COVID not sending out any invites till I know more

It’s so rude to ask to be invited I cannot stand that! In my opinion if you have to ask you should kinda already know your not invited.

Omg its ridiculous. We are having a small wedding in the city where my fiance and I live, because its local to us and FH side cannot afford to fly across the country to my hometown. My side of the family have thrown such a hissy fit about our small guest count EVEN THOUGH we are also having a reception in my hometown for them and my moms billion friends. Not to mention people FH and I went to high school with and have barely talked to be like "cant wait to come to your wedding" or "can i bring my boyfriend i really want to bring him" Like im sorry I can't afford to feed all 600+ family and friends and their billion children. Really glad i can use COVID as an excuse lmao

I have not had anyone ask if they were invited or even tell me to invite them. But I have had family members tell me who to invite to the wedding not even ask but tell me to invite so and so. And i kind of see your frustration. I'd be pretty annoyed too.

Sorry accidentally hit reply. I get pretty annoyed when family members tell me who to invite. It's like I have a certain amount of people I can afford to come and you telling me to invite someone I never met or only met once or maybe I'm not at all close with is pretty annoying. Because I am paying for the wedding and want people I'm close with there and I'm not going to give up someone I'm close withs spot so you can have someone at my wedding that you used to know in middle school.

That drives me bonkers. they say it like a joke but it makes it awkward

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This! My fiancé’s mom was like “you need to invite your uncles!” then COVID came and we changed our plans to an elopement. My fiancé’s mom literally said “I’m glad the uncles aren’t coming because I don’t like them”. Lol like what?

The worst was people I haven’t spoken to in years making contact right after getting engaged. It truly felt like they were fishing for an invite.

LOL meeee!!!!! I just try not to talk about the wedding with people from work unless I like them and plan to invite them. People ask questions and I give them short answers and leave it at that. I want to say to them "It's obvious you don't like me so why would I invite you?" but like you, I just try to control my death glare lol

That's just really rude and no one should be asking you that. Fortunately the people in our lives are more considerate and we were never asked, nor did anyone ever assume they were invited.

My FAVORITE! Is when we saw my fiance's mother commenting through Facebook on her random friends posts (who we do not know) "Look for your invite in the mail!". This was two weeks before the RSVP cut off, so no. No Gloria from the grocery store, you will not be coming to my wedding.

You are definitely not alone! hah. I had people ask me randomly if they were invited and it was so uncomfortable and awkward. Don't ask someone on the spot! It's so rude.